swearing - does your dh do it in front of your kids?

[sophy]

Mine does. All the time. And at them, as in 'F- off you little b---d.' Really starting to get to me.

I know a little boy of six who always says "Oh my giddy aunt" and it sounds so quaint and sweet. On the other hand he once told me he didn't feel like walking far because "My legs are all buggered up" - apparently his influences are a combination of parents who avoid swearing like the plague and a granny who doesn't! Just shows you what they pick up, though.

Neither DH swear much (and never harshly) anyway now. Certainly never in front of DD.

I loathe to hear children being sworn at. Sorry, but it really sickens me and I feel so sad for the child.

no but last week when i was taking kids to school a little boy of about 3 threw a snowball at his mum and she turned round and shouted at him "that wasnt funny you little bas*d, f*king do that again and you're f*king dead" .

I really feel for those kids. My oldest daughter, 8, says she hears her mum and new boyfriend arguing and she hates to hear swearing, makes her want to hide.

I remember once, my now ex wife (then wife) were arguing round the shops. As I bent down to pick up my daughter I muttered under my breath "oh, f off" aimed at my wife. My daughter shouted off, "No, YOU f off, daddy!" I waa utterly mortified and pretended I'd said it to an old lady who'd bumped into me!!

overheard a young mother holding a 4 yr old boy's hand say to her friend, "little f*er wouldn't go to school!" I never swore at them and stopped swearing in front of ds1 when one of his first words was "oh s**t!"

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I think swearing AT them is just awful, sophy. Letting slip a choice epithet or two accidently is one thing but telling a child to fuck off is horrible. Do feel safe to talk to him about it?

Sorry- see that you have spoken to your husband about this many times already, sophy. Hmm. Well, I don't think his response is good enough. How often does he do this?

Ask him how he will feel when his kids tell some other child to fuck off in school, because it will happen. How happy will he be explaining the reason to the staff?

Tonight dh was giving them a bath when ds1 called ds2 'a little bd,' and dh told him very firmly such language was unacceptable. So maybe he is becoming more aware of it. Am thinking of raising it tonight in a non-confrontational way, if I can.

I think that it is great that he is correcting them if they swear. However that will not help that much is he continues to swear at them. They will copy what you do rather than what you sawy

Well, we have just had a rational and sensible discussion about it and he agreed 'we' need to clean up our acts. So will just have to see how it goes. It's fine when he's in a good mood, just when he's tired and bad-tempered that it becomes a problem.

My dp does swear in front of them but not at them. It is one of the things we are always arguing about as i hate it.

Thankfully non of the kids do, Ds (age 2) calls everyone a muppet though, which he has off dp.

Well thats good Sophy, at least he is gonna try, my dp reckons that he can swear of he wants to cos no one canm tell him what to do...........childish or what.

Sounds good, sophy. Hope he can do it.

No, never ever ever. It's one thing that we are both very strict about, and in total agreement about.

Plenty of other things that we disagree about though

That is great news sophy, well done to you and good luck to your dh