swearing - does your dh do it in front of your kids?

[sophy]

Mine does. All the time. And at them, as in 'F- off you little b---d.' Really starting to get to me.

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Does he talk that way to you as well, sophy?

roisin, I've heard similar outside our school and it's so sad. Sophy, I agree with everyone, tell him not to, it's awful.

No, DH doesn't swear at all and I'm even stopping him from saying 'stupid' in front of DS who now keeps calling his toys stupid.

Please speak to your DH about it. There's no need to speak to children like that. Have your kids been swearing too?

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Of course I have asked him not ... many times ... but it usually ends in a row with me being called a nag and told I'm not such a great parent myself. To be fair to dh, he doesn't talk to the kids like that very often, only when he is clearly at the end of his tether, but, yes, my 3 y.o. has picked it up and I've heard him call his older brother 'you little b' when he is very cross. I don't know what to do.

I do swear in front of my kids but not at them and I do think its something that needs addressing.

I know you say your DH is at the end of his tether but resorting to swearing at them is not going to help. How will he feel when his kids turn round and say eff off back and call him a barsteward? What will he do about that?

I think if my DH was calling me a nag when I was pointing out the obvious and was swearing at the kids, he would be finding himself out on his ear if I am honest.

How do you eat piss?

Totally not acceptable to speak to your (or any) children like that. We never say anything more than bloody hell in front of them and I have something to say if anyone else does (using my common sense of course). I cannot see any reason, ever, to use foul language to get your point across to someone else (I'm excluding swearing at other drivers when I'm on my own in the car of course )

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ggglimpopo, that's very funny! (sad as well)
Dh looses his temper and swears while driving sometimes (not at ds), then says he's very sorry - especially when ds (nearly 5) says: 'Don't say f..., daddy, it's a bad word!'

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Since DS came along neither DH or I swear,swear (as in really swear) in front of him, and by default we find we do so less on our own.

We were driving home from town yesterday and the guy in the next lane swerved a bit wide, and before DH or I could say a word, DS 3.5 said Jeesussss call that driving.

He either comes out with Jeesus or Gods sake and if that is the worst he comes out with we will be quite happy.

Oh and stupid and shut up are not used as they are not very nice things to say.

We've started to say Sssshhh and put a finger on our mouth IYSWIM. DD has picked that up straight away. I think thats alot better than shut up.

OMG Eat piss????

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Stupid, shut up and idiot are banned words in our house. DD(6) now getting a bit uppity saying 'but they're not swear words' in that piercing whiney kind of voice.

I once said f**k it when I dropped a pot of stncil paint into the bath and have managed to convince the littlies that I actually said bucket

I think its disgusting and abusive to swear at children. I feel really sorry for the kids - with parents like that what chance have they got

Nope, not appropriate, no way. We started to modify our language the moment I knew I was pregnant! By the time he popped out we barely uttered a single oath. Wouldn't stand for it at all. Kids learn by copying adults, usually their parents, so what chance do they have if they're constantly subjected to this kind of language?

Stupid, shut up etc are no-nos too. My dad used to go ape if me and my sister called each other pigs, and it still makes my skin crawl to this day if I hear anyone using it.

Apart from the damage that is being caused to the children they will grow up using that sort of language. I am fed up of the persistant use of foul language in the kids I teach. When you walk past them it is f this and f that. Not nice, not big and not clever.

Your kids will be telling their little friends to F* off in not time. I dare say the school will ask you to deal with it, how will he feel when they start 'nagging' him? Or will he just storm into school and tell them to fuck off as well? (you may hear the voice of experience here btw)

Oh and I was not allowed to say 'shut up' as a child

no, he dosen't ever, I am the vile foul mouthed fishwife but trying desparately to mend my ways

sophy, a father swearing at children like this would really get to me, too, especially if he did it all the time.

I don't like general swearing when children are around, but feel this is a much lesser thing, if it is occasional.

I don't swear at them, just in front of them - which isn't very nice either

My DH swears all the time when he's driving, not at the kids thankfully, but at other drivers and himself! It really gets to me, but he just won't stop!! I tell him and he gets all childish, making excuses etc etc..... how can you 'make' a grown man stop swearing??

My dw and I have always sworn like troopers but are makng extra special effort not to do so around baba. I also don't like shut up, i always use be quiet. I've started sounding like my mother, though, "fiddlesticks" and "oh my giddt aunt" are becoming more prevalent!