I am utterly sick of repeating myself

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

Does anyone elses kids do anything at the first time of asking? I constantly have to say everything at least 3 times with the final time being a shout. It's with everything from getting dressed, to getting shoes on, to stopping doing something - absolutely everything. I'm exhausted by it. How do you get them to do something? They know that in the end they have to do it anyway. Arrrrghhhhh one instruction has to be repeated for each kid so with the two of them that's six instructions. I'm turning into some sort of shouting neurotic

"Sometimes feel as if I am surrounded by deaf morons" is a not a little deaf-ist, don't you?

I don't think it's deaf-ist at all. It's not like she's implying that deaf people are morons. She's implying that her offspring with perfect hearing are acting like they're morons, who can't hear, and therefore not reacting to what she says.

I honestly can't see what's deaf-ist about that. And I'm deaf in one ear too.

Oh, and my daughter is too young to respond to commands or requests very well yet, as she's just over a year old (she manages to respond to "give Daddy a kiss" fine, but not "come away from that plug socket") but my step-children both have to be asked everything more than twice. It quite often leads to slightly raised voices, if not shouting.

You guys are a laugh!
I find myself trying different techniques of talking to my 4 year old, but they only seem to work for a while and then I have to try something new.
At the moment is I want you to do this now please!It works sometimes, when it doesnt Im shouting.Lets jusrt say patiente after a long day is short, and you just want them to do things!!

I agree with the calm reasoning approach being creepy. I read 'how to talk...' and it irritated me, nevermind my children. I felt such a fraud if I used any of the techniques both my dds ignored me anyway!

Hi all,
I havent been on here for ages but thought id comment as this thread rings so true to the morning i had this morning, ds2(age4) in paddy naked on the floor crying cos his brother opened the door first, ds1(age9) giggling as hes running from scene on way to annoy ds3(age2) as im yelling 'you've got 10 mins till we leave and i dont care if your naked or havent had breakfast' no one responded they all had volentry deafness. i tried convincing my self that its developmental just like it says in that raising boys book, hmmm not convinced!
nice to see im not the only fish wife at 8.30 am on a school day.

zazen I tried whispering to my 5 year old son to come & wipe his hands after tea and still got no response!!! You have obviously had some bad expeiences of peoples attitudes to deafness but on here we are all just ranting about not being heard by our children. I have nothing against deaf people and can even do the alphabet in sign language which my mum taught me when I was little!Anyway,this impressed the typist where I used to work who was deaf and I got on well with!

Well it's true Groovy, attitudes towards people who are deaf are way behind those who use glasses to see, and wheelchairs to get about, and by reading here I see this attitude is pretty endemic, with deafness being associated on this thread with lower intelligence - Morons etc... it's discriminatory

I suppose what we are really talking about is that rather than saying that the children are deaf, what we are really talking about is that the children aren't listening.

it might be a plan to stop using the word deaf in this thread, and just state it as it is that the kids are ignoring the parents because they are doing other things, and that shouting at them doesn't seem to make a difference!

There is another theme in this thread and that is that parents are becoming frustrated with being ignored by their absorbed and dreamy kids. maybe that lack of patience needs a bit of work as well - I found the book 9 Ways To Bring Out The Best In You & Your Child by maggie reigh to be a valuable read here. HTH someone, it helped me !

I have quickly flicked through this thread and only a few people out of 58 posts have used the term deaf!! How many children do you have? Following the birth of my eldest son I had twins after many years of trying and realise now how much simpler life with only one child is. I am not criticising having only one child just a bit envious of the peace and quiet it brings!

Not convinced by all these 'deaf hatred' accusations. No one here is being anti-deaf, just anti people who are lucky enough to be able to hear but choose not to! My darling sister is deaf so know I what it means to live with such a terrible disability.

As for the deaf/blind issue, my lucky DH has perfect vision, yet still constantly asks me where things are which are sitting right in front of him. Being irritated by that in no way means I am critical of genuine blindness...

great thread guys, have been laughing my socks off....

Oh yes!!! Why is it that men never bother to look for anything or remember where things are!!