Are reins really considered "chavish"?

[Gateau]

Have been looking into buying reins for my 16month old DS and have read that they are often considered "chavish" nowadays.
This - yet another example of - inane snobbery will not sway my opinion either way, but is this the way reins are viewed nowadays?
And if so, WHY???

if my 2 year old charge had not worn reins when he was about 18 months he WOULD have been runover twice

"lots of" children don't get run over; Lots of isn't good enough for me.
And I am not concened about the chavishness; I don't give a shit what else anyone thinks. I have bought reins anyway. It was a question to other MNers because I couldn't believe I had read something so pathetic.

derelicte

Hand holding is not advised when they've just learnt to walk - a big risk of arm twisting and little broken bones.
Presuming my children's sound road safety wouldn't be good enough for me. What's to stop them belting off onto the road at any point?

Geez, calm down gateau
You started a thread, didn't you expect a wide range of comments
You sound irate

Well, none of my children have, but as I said, maybe I am just lucky. That's the joy of sharing opinions, makes you think eh?

I did expect lots of comments. Surprisingly tho I only got two against reins. But I can also put my point forward without being coined "irate." Bloody hell.

When we hold hands it's a gentle thing, I can't imagine how I would break my childrens bones.
Don't know anyone that has happened to...has it happened to any of your children?
Do you have older ones?

Anyway, we do what we must. It doesn't really matter....obviuosly I must stay away from reins threads!
Good luck with your little one

No, it's not so much about the hand holding as the learning to walk.
I READ that when they're just learning to walk, the child can twirl round - which they often do - my DS still is doing that - and consequently the arm your holding the hand of twists tight round. It's dangerous.

gateau i feel you are overstating risk.infant metatacarpals and phalanges are not likely to be damaged by normal handling, nor will adult holding hands result in broken arms

actually no big risk at all with normal handling

toddlers are robust you know

sheesh! toddlers are active they run skip fall and are not sustaining injuries by hands being held by mummy

MrsRuffallo - FWIW, DD's dodgy elbows were almost certainly caused by hand-holding. I held her hand gently, but the automatic response when she tripped was to hold on (rather than let go) and that is what caused her first dislocation. Once you've had a dislocation, you're more susceptible to it happening again.

You don't have to let go, you can move with them instead of yanking thenm up when they fall
I seriously have never heard of this happening
Sounds a bit neurotic

Read my latest post, SM. It's not about the mere hand holding FFS! And who said anthing about hand holding causing broken arms??!! I think it's you that's overstating here.
Will go with the experts' opinion, thanks.

I think that other mum's opinions are valid actually

mrsruffalo - I think that you are lucky that your DCs have had natural road sense from an early age. DD certainly doesn't.

Also, for what it's worth, my friend's DS had a dislocation - he started to run out into the road, she pulled him back (was holding his hand) and out it popped. A&E said that it was a very common injury in children as they dislocate more easily than adults and it's not rare to have small children try to run off.

They're valid in that hand holding itself does not cause injury, yes.
But I never said it did.

Teaching road safety depends on the child tho doesnt it? and on the road you live on. Cool if you have a nice quiet child who doesnt walk till late and are happy to sit in buggy or car. Not so great if you have a very active child and live next to a busy narrow road with narrow footpaths and lorries whizzing past.

dearie gateau you dont half get in a fankle if someone has a different opinion to you!

when you have finished squawking your FFS and calmed down really have a think about this

do you think A&E and GP is full of injured wee toddlers fresh from the high street with mummy.

it is not

toddlers are robust they can sustain hand holding etc

Tittlemouse- I have stated several times that I must be lucky
I understand pulling a child with a great semse of force would have an effect but not holding hands wuth them as they toddle along

Kettle - pot??! Mmmm.
SM, I ain't engaging in any sort of argument with you. I have just read on another thread how other posters have found you annoying and TRYING TO BE patronising, so best not to get involved with you, really.
I doubt A and E is full of injured toddlers. And your point is??!

Oh, I completely agree that walking along holding a child's hand won't cause harm. To be honest, I hadn't considered what happens when they try to run off and you yank them back until it happened to a friend. But, like I said, as soon as they arrived in A&E, the staff knew exactly what had happened as it was so common. And if a child is running off into a dangerous situation, I don't think that you have time to consider how you're holding them back, you just instinctively pull them to you however you can.

and as for not all children get run over that is true..

Buy I have got run over (and very nearly died as a result) so its not a chance I wish to take with either my charges OR my own children!

I'd much rather see a child in reins than strapped into a pushchair.

Who said holding a child's hand - the mere act itself - causes harm??!
It's what the child can do subsequently WHILE you're holding his/her hand that can cause harm.