How often does your DP/DH take your DCs out without you and what do you do with your free time?

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I pose this question after reading the Motherhood dilemma thread (which was v enlightening to me). So.....

How often?
How many and how old are DCs?
How long are they out for? Overnight? Whole day, half day?
And what do you do with the time?

Here are my answers to kick off:

once a year (on average)
DD is 6, he's never taken both of them together and DS is now 1.5
Took DD camping overnight once when DS was a few months old, rest of days out have been to in-laws
I (sad to say) blitz the house, watch TV, perhaps go to cinema and get a takeaway.

How I would love to have a weekend away with some girl-friends.....

PS DH is v good with them, just never takes them out that often on his own; as hard as I try I'm always roped in for "family time".

quid pro quo as they say

I take them out most weekends on my own (all three of them) usually for at least a couple of hours, often longer.

DH (who is a SAHD) complains bitterly that this leaves him dumped with doing the laundry and the shopping.

Never takes all of them. Occasionally one of the older two. Rarely both the older two. Youngest is 2 so not reliant on bf or anything. He will have them if I need to go out int he evening if they are in bed. He can cope with each of them I just think the idea of all three terrifies him.

How often - daily because he's off sick and is spending time over the allotment before he has to go back to work in 10 days time.

How many - 3 children 11 years , 7 years and 7 months (although he dosent take her over there, he'd never get anything done)

How long - all day from about 10.00am -6.00pm when dinner is ready

What do I do with the time - I mumsnet and look after the baby.

On a normal week when he's not off sick he will take them all for the day on his day off as I will generally be working.

My DH regularly takes the DC at weekends. We both work fulltime during the week.
He will take them both swimming, or to see his parents or out on the bikes. They are aged 4 and 8.
I play tennis while this is all taking place. Just now he has left work early to do the grocery trip with older DS.

well he took ds (15mo) down to stay with ds's grandad last weekend. they were away for about 24 hours: never been gone that long or overnight.
i used the time to, er, mostly go to work. oh, and briefly come home for a couple of hours and enjoy the house being quiet for about five minutes.
then i missed them.....
then they came back early because apparently the whole trip had been a nightmare, ds was teething and crying, grandad not used to babies, dh stressed out of his mind....at that point i revised my view about missing them.
tthink that may be it for dh being in sole charge for about the next five years.

how often - every weekend

dc are 6 3 and 4 months

half day (elder dc, baby stays with me as exc bf)

feed baby, chill out, go out shopping.....

dh is fab.

hmm, like a pp, we both work full-time so tend to spend weekends all together.

DH babysits if I want to go out with friends (and I reciprocate) or have a late meeting.

I went away for a couple of weekends no problem when we just had DS1.

DS2 is more difficult and very mummy-attached but I did go away for 4 days for work in June and a week last October (but he got my mum over for part of that!).

DH often takes DS1 (3) out and about with him or does work in the garden with him but is bad about taking both DS or even just DS2 (18mths).

I would LOVE a break from DS2 who is usually hanging off me or demanding a bf!

dd is 9 weeks old. I have only just let dp take her out on his own! He only walked her around the block but was gone for 30 minutes - I didnt know what to do with myself and worried about them the whole time! I am hoping that he will continue this weekly so that I can get used to being away from her and get some time to myself that I enjoy. I will probably be on mn the whole time

gawd - where do i start
DS1 15 - one evening a week trainning.
cricket, golf or rugby at the weekend -every weekend. All harlequins home matches. Once for a weeks skiing

DS2 11 but with severe SN
horse riding every other weekend, fav shops every weekend, all harlequins home matches.

DD age 5 ( and much prefers me). walking the dogs in the woods once each weekend ( they have just gone actually). Takes her to all her parties. Occasionally her ballet. And they do the big shop together.

He rarely has more than two of them because of their different needs but deliberately tries to entertain two when the other has something else going on IYSWIM.And if I am tired or low he takes them all out for a really long dog walk and lets me sleep

When they are all entertained I tend to read, cook or watch the West Wing .

( he is fab. He works from 7 am to 7.30 pm week days. )