Do you ever feel like getting up and walking out?

[AngieL]

For a few hours anyway? At the moment I could quite happily walk out the door and leave my dh and the kids to get on with it. Or am I just especially horrible?

I think you are especially normal. Why don't you go for a nice evening stroll and leave them to it?

Yes I do (or have done) so no you're not horrible. How old are your kids?

I'd go if I could but dh isn't home yet. Kids are just 5, 2 and 1, so a bit young to leave them on their own.

Wow, 3 at 5 and under. No wonder! Just tell yourself that it's not long til bedtime. The end of the day is in sight. Open a bottle of wine if you haven't already. Not advocating getting p*** but I really did find a glass of wine just calmed me down when I felt like a pressure cooker. Honestly, you're not alone. I remember thinking the only reason I wasn't walking out was because I would be arrested.

Yes! Can you tell DH you need some time when he gets in?

Wow I'm impressed AngieL - 3 kids... I struggle with one ) My favourite phrase on these occasions when daddy gets home is "he's your son, bye" and then go and lock myself where the computers are... hehe.

Yes, I highly recommend the glass of wine approach too. That and long bubblebaths once the bra...darlings are asleep

Don't be too impressed. I seem to be making a major cock up of most things at the moment. The eldest two are now in bed, so I think I will go and get a drink. Not sure I'll want to stop after just one though,lol.

are they cock-ups about big stuff or little ones?

AngieL - it's hard work bringing up one child (and I've only been at it 20 months and I'm feeling the strain!), you're bringing up three - don't sell yourself short. Even the fact that you're worrying about it shows that you're a good mum - if you were a bad mum you wouldn't care or even think of it.

Is the one year old still waking up at night? If not, treat yourself to more than one glass, you deserve it. hugs

Just feeling fed up I suppose. The kids are really playing me up. DD1 still doesn't want to go to school, although she isn't ill anymore, screams the whole way which starts the day off really badly.

My ds is refusing to eat anything at the moment, he wants bottles of milk or crisps, he keeps throwing food on the floor.

DD1 is being equally fussy and saying she doesn't like things before she's even tried them. I showed her pictures of a famine tonight, thought it might help her see how lucky she is. Just ended up upsetting myself though.

Rang dh and asked him how long he would be. He told me to stop nagging as that wouldn't make him come home any sooner.

The youngest is actually not too bad apart from she has a cold and is teething.

Tell me about your kids anyway, take my mind off mine.

AngieL, sounds like a bad day. Definitely have a glass or 2 of wine. Know what you mean about the bad starts to the day. If I have screaming first thing I feel out of kilter for a while too. Can you get the 3rd one to bed too so you get a break? Much sympathy. I only have one too so can't imagine what 3 under 5 must be like.

Oh god, if I have a bad start to the day, that's it for the whole day I'm in such a bad mood (I know that sounds terrible, but it's true, you just sort of get in a downward spiral unless you're really lucky and notice and pull yourself up!) That must be terrible to have your DD screaming about not wanting to go to school

My ds is okay at the moment, but missing Daddy horribly. I'm finding it terribly hard to cope with him being away all week too. Found out recently that I've lost half a stone from the stress (not just from that, but moving stress and loads of other stuff) which I can ill afford to lose and I have been getting loads of migraines recently too. Sometimes you'd think you were asking for the Earth to want a peaceful life, just for a day or two, don't you?!

Angie I get like you regularly, feel a bit relieved to hear others feel the same tbh. I have 4 kids, 10,6,4 and almost 2. Oldest one is impossible at the moment, everything is met with cheeky answers or lots of harrumphing, second one isn't too bad unless she is tired. Number three looks like an angel but has devil horns hidden in his hair, and number 4 has cp so needs a lot of my time and attention. I lost it spectacularly last night at dinner when number 3 was going bonkers over something totally ridiculous, like the way dh was pouring his drink. Ended up with child in another room, my dinner over the table where i dropped it in anger, and me sobbing on the bed, feeling like if I could I would have got up and gone right then and there (had been a very stressful afternoon)! Does that help you feel better?! Now everyone is going to say what a bad mum I am !

HI Lou33, have had those days too. As you know we have a 5 year old with CP,a 2 year old with CP and a 1 year old. I would quite happily walk away too. I walked out the other day and went for a walk (hubby was there to look after the kids) it cleared my head and help me calm down. Have broken plates, thrown plastic dishes and screamed at them too, and I have ended up sobbing on the bed more than once too. Oh the joys!!!!!!!!

Oh virgo that sounds horrid I bet there's other mums nearby that are in the same boat though. The days just seem to stretch forever when you don't have contact with another adult, don't they?!

I'm so glad I'm not the only one iynwim. You've made me feel loads better. Sometimes I just feel like giving up.

I feel worse again now. Dh has just come downstairs and I told him about my crap day and his really helpful suggestion was don't buy crisps then. If I thought that this would solve all my problems, I would.

I feel like he is criticising what I do but doesn't come up with anything himself. I guess its just easier to blame me. Now I feel like leaving him. lol

I have felt like this many times.
Watching 'Unconditional Love' on Tuesday night with Robson green and Sarah Parrish made me feel better. If you can get hold of a tape of it, watch that. It brings it home to you that whatever you do, being there is all that matters. Have some more wine and make your DH take over earlier. Hope you feel better soon.

Re: the glass of wine topic, ever since motherhood was bestowed upon me I find that I have a small glass of wine just about every day (sometimes every second day). I just find that it's a bit of a calmative at the end of the day... the only thing is I'm sure dh thinks I've got a drinking problem now . No not really - I only ever have one glass but it's definitely on a more regular basis than it was before ds came along.

mum2boy, I think you are very virtuous with your 1 glass. When my kids really play me up, I usually resort to 1 bottle! AngieL and others, I think we all feel like this at some time, esp when kids are very little and demanding. 3 kids under 5 is VERY hard work. Just being with little children all day is exhausting IMO.

I had to laugh at your d.h's unhelpful suggestion of not buying crisps: its just what my d.h. would say. I think many men try to 'solve' problems with kids like they would try to sort out a business matter at work. They seem to forget that what works with rational, articulate, fairly reasonable 30 year olds is lost on a 2 yr old who is throwing their dinner in your face and screaming as if they're being tortured. I defy anyone to stay calm and reasonable in these kind of situations. Hope you have a better day today. Its great to have Mumsnet to sound off on, isn't it

Help. It's 9.23am and I've already had enough. Ds is teething (which I know it's not his fault) but I've dosed him up with baby nurofen and bonjela and he's still constantly grizzly and doesn't know what he wants. I've got major period pain which never helps, and quite frankly I just want to go to bed, pull the covers over my head and pretend I'm childless for the day!

I've turned the telly on for ds already, CBeebies is a wonderful thing. So much for my half hour telly a day rule I was going to have before I had children, lol! Think it's going to stay on for the day...