My 4yo's dad was arrested today for (drunkenly) threatening someone with a weapon, then threatening police when they turned up. Armed police were involved and it looks like quite a serious incident.
DD usually spends every other Saturday night with him and every Sunday, which I'll immediately stop, even though he doesn't drink with her around. It sounds like he's been on a bender this weekend though, as me and DD are away on holiday with my family. The reason we split is because of his alcoholism (thankfully he wasn't violent or abusive to me or DD, but the drinking always caused chaos - this is extreme though).
I need practical advice on how to handle this with the relevant people. I've emailed social services to ask them for advice on what contact he might be allowed going forwards. Do I tell school about this? She's due to start reception in September.
She does love her dad and likes spending time there, but doesn't really ask much about him outside of that, refuses phone calls and wouldn't get particularly upset if I said her "daddy day" has been cancelled. I don't know what to say about why he can't see her if she asks though, as I don't want her to think he doesn't love her or anything, but telling her that he's in jail feels massively inappropriate. Any tips?
Sorry for ramble, my brain is a flurry of adrenaline as all this has come to light in the last couple of hours.