How often do your children see their in laws grandparents?

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How often do you see your MIL / FIL? And do you work full time / part time / not at all?

genuinely curious - that’s all :)

I’m confused by the question. Do you mean how often do we see MIL/FIL (DH parents)? If so, twice a year approx. They’re retired mid 50s and DH works 35 hours a week and I work 25

Yes exactly that. I have edited my Q to hopefully
be clearer.

thanks for coming back to me, do you have children?

I work full time and so does my husband. We see my in laws most Fridays as they pick up from school unless they are away.

I’m a SAHM and we see MIL/FIL two or three times a year.

We see my parents the same number of times.

We live away from them all.

My youngest (4, not yet at school) sees them at least twice a week.

My eldest (10) maybe twice a month.

I rarely see them as my husband does all of the leg work.

I work 30 hours a week, Monday - Thursday.

Why?

See MIL once or twice a year but very briefly (by choice), never met FIL. but if you asked DH how often he saw his PIL he’d say everyday! He works full time and I don’t work.

Why are you only asking about seeing in-laws and not your own parents? Why is one set more important than the other?

Me and my husband work four days a week and our children see both sets usually about twice a week depending what we have on. My in-laws do childcare one day a week and my mum helps me on my non-working day but we'll see each set normally once a week on top of this.

They live an hour away, both retired. We see them every 2-3 weeks for a few hours.

I work full time, partner works 3 days a week.

See my parents a few times a week (pop in for a coffee, spend half an hour together at the park etc).

Dpil they see 5 days a week as they help with after school childcare
At times when I've been working different hours they'll have them a couple of times a week even if not needed just to see them, they live 5 minutes away

In contrast my d parents also live 5 minutes away and see them maybe twice a year for longer than a half hour and maybe 3/4 times a year for less than half hour

Dc are 9 and 12

When we lived in the same city and I was working 3 days a week I’d drive them (about 45-50 min drive) to the in-laws maybe 2 to 3 times a month. We’d stay most of the day. My husband was away a lot so it was mostly me. I get along fine with my MIL. We’re not close. We are different people, she’s very of her generation. She adores the kids. She’s very old now and will die soon I think. The kids will be very upset because they have a close relationship with her.

I felt a strong obligation to foster the relationship, because, grandparents I guess? Though at the time I didn’t relish schlepping from one side of Melbourne to the other.

I resent my SIL for not making a similar effort with my nephews when they were little. She had a similar relationship with my mum as I do with my MIL.

About 3 times a year. Live 4 hour drive away (they moved before we had children). DC are adults now. My parents most weeks.

Weekly for my youngest - they do two days of childcare.

DH and I both work full time.

They see my parents (who moved several hrs away) a few times a year.

I think it depends on how close you live to them and how much time you would normally spend together anyway. When our oldest children were young, we saw PIL weekly-ish, then they moved to USA so obviously we only saw them once every couple of years but we would go and stay for 2/3 weeks. We saw much more of my parents as they helped with childcare etc so consequently had a much closer relationship with our children. That was not by design but just circumstances.

I work full time mon-fri. DH works shifts so goes to see his parents maybe once a week during the week on a day off. I’m more than happy with that, they heavily smoke in their house so refuse to go there. They see our DS maybe about 6 times a year.

FIL still works but only 18 hours a week. MIL recently retired. We see them both probably once a month, sometimes more, sometimes less. I have two young children under 5. Currently on mat. Leave but will be going back to work 30 hours a week over 4 days. I previously worked full time before second child. DH still works full time (shift work).

All grandparents are deceased. Ds has a half-sister he sees maybe twice a year. They aren't close in age.

He has lots of uncles, aunts and cousins on my side though. 😊

4-6 times a year. We’re an 8 hour drive away.

I live in the other side if the country from my DS and his family, and I see them about four or five times a year. I know they see DIL's mother a lot more often - she’s a widow, and she lives a lot closer to them.

Yes, we have a 13 month old

We live far away from both parents. We see his maybe a few times a year, my Mum less, as we don't really get on. His parents have their own friends and hobbies so it's finding a rare free weekend and they usually come here. My Mum claims to be busy though I have no idea what she does, so I wait for her to ask if she can visit. We don't have any kids and don't intend to.

Me: every 3-5 years
DH: 2-3 times a year
DD: 1-2 times a year

We both work more than full time and they live about 5 hours away. They’re also arseholes, hence the above.

They live a short flight away. They come here for a week ish 3-4 times per year and we visit 2-3 times per year. So roughly every 2 months. No bad blood or issues … just distance.

2-3 times a year but for 1-2 weeks each time as they live in another country. Both work full time.

2-3 times a year. Used to be more when dc were little but they’re teens with jobs and clubs that mean weekends away don’t work so in laws have to come to us and that’s hard work - mil won’t drive, fil has to take breaks so the 3hr 45 minute journey takes 6 hours at least. They expect to be served like I’m staff and are generally unhelpful but nice people. 2-3 nights stay is the maximum before the rage sets in. They complain they don’t see us enough but make no effort. They’re sad we see my parents more but my parents drop everything and drive 1.5 hours to help any time with no complaints, invite us to them etc.

I dont work at the moment, DH works full time and away a lot. We are MIL sometimes multiple times a week, sometimes every two weeks. She still works full time.

My parents are retired, live 9 hours away. We see them roughly 4 times a year for a week or two at a time.