How often do your children see their in laws grandparents?

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How often do you see your MIL / FIL? And do you work full time / part time / not at all?

genuinely curious - that’s all :)

I’m confused by the question. Do you mean how often do we see MIL/FIL (DH parents)? If so, twice a year approx. They’re retired mid 50s and DH works 35 hours a week and I work 25

Yes exactly that. I have edited my Q to hopefully
be clearer.

thanks for coming back to me, do you have children?

I work full time and so does my husband. We see my in laws most Fridays as they pick up from school unless they are away.

I’m a SAHM and we see MIL/FIL two or three times a year.

We see my parents the same number of times.

We live away from them all.

My youngest (4, not yet at school) sees them at least twice a week.

My eldest (10) maybe twice a month.

I rarely see them as my husband does all of the leg work.

I work 30 hours a week, Monday - Thursday.

Why?

See MIL once or twice a year but very briefly (by choice), never met FIL. but if you asked DH how often he saw his PIL he’d say everyday! He works full time and I don’t work.

Why are you only asking about seeing in-laws and not your own parents? Why is one set more important than the other?

Me and my husband work four days a week and our children see both sets usually about twice a week depending what we have on. My in-laws do childcare one day a week and my mum helps me on my non-working day but we'll see each set normally once a week on top of this.

They live an hour away, both retired. We see them every 2-3 weeks for a few hours.

I work full time, partner works 3 days a week.

See my parents a few times a week (pop in for a coffee, spend half an hour together at the park etc).

Dpil they see 5 days a week as they help with after school childcare
At times when I've been working different hours they'll have them a couple of times a week even if not needed just to see them, they live 5 minutes away

In contrast my d parents also live 5 minutes away and see them maybe twice a year for longer than a half hour and maybe 3/4 times a year for less than half hour

Dc are 9 and 12

When we lived in the same city and I was working 3 days a week I’d drive them (about 45-50 min drive) to the in-laws maybe 2 to 3 times a month. We’d stay most of the day. My husband was away a lot so it was mostly me. I get along fine with my MIL. We’re not close. We are different people, she’s very of her generation. She adores the kids. She’s very old now and will die soon I think. The kids will be very upset because they have a close relationship with her.

I felt a strong obligation to foster the relationship, because, grandparents I guess? Though at the time I didn’t relish schlepping from one side of Melbourne to the other.

I resent my SIL for not making a similar effort with my nephews when they were little. She had a similar relationship with my mum as I do with my MIL.

About 3 times a year. Live 4 hour drive away (they moved before we had children). DC are adults now. My parents most weeks.

Weekly for my youngest - they do two days of childcare.

DH and I both work full time.

They see my parents (who moved several hrs away) a few times a year.

I think it depends on how close you live to them and how much time you would normally spend together anyway. When our oldest children were young, we saw PIL weekly-ish, then they moved to USA so obviously we only saw them once every couple of years but we would go and stay for 2/3 weeks. We saw much more of my parents as they helped with childcare etc so consequently had a much closer relationship with our children. That was not by design but just circumstances.

I work full time mon-fri. DH works shifts so goes to see his parents maybe once a week during the week on a day off. I’m more than happy with that, they heavily smoke in their house so refuse to go there. They see our DS maybe about 6 times a year.

FIL still works but only 18 hours a week. MIL recently retired. We see them both probably once a month, sometimes more, sometimes less. I have two young children under 5. Currently on mat. Leave but will be going back to work 30 hours a week over 4 days. I previously worked full time before second child. DH still works full time (shift work).

All grandparents are deceased. Ds has a half-sister he sees maybe twice a year. They aren't close in age.

He has lots of uncles, aunts and cousins on my side though. 😊

4-6 times a year. We’re an 8 hour drive away.