To be concerned about the way my granddaughter was told about her biological dad?

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Phone call last week from SIL crying that my daughter had told their daughter (my grand daughter) aged 8, that he was not her 'real' dad.

For context my daughter and sil been together since gd was 2 years old. She had been brought up to believe that he is her real dad and they have a good relationship.

Have been informed that my daughter, whilst both having a few drinks in the evening randomly told my gd that, he's not your real dad you know that don't you? Apparntly gd was confused and thought it was a game but daughter doubled down and said he's not your real dad. SIL in tears and gd confused.

This has all been confirmed by my daughter as well, according to them nothing was planned before hand about this and was completely random.

Feel so bad for gd, daughter is not concerned about it which makes me think I'm over reacting to be concerned and to be rather upset with her. Not sure if relevant but they are young parents, 24 and 27

Anon account due to sensitive topic

Her daughter behaved SO badly. It’s really nasty!

OH! It was a bit of a puzzle!

In these circumstances I don’t think it was the best way of communicating that anyway. That should have been a sensitive sit down conversation.

I think its important DGD knows that while SiL is her "real dad" the one who loves her, cares about her and provides for her - he is not her biological father.

I think that your DD is awful for saying SiL isn't her real dad because thats confusing for an 8 year old. He is her dad, her real dad he just isnt her biological father. And DGD deserves reassurance he still loves her. I also think something that your DGD should know by now shouldnt have been revealed as part of a drunken rant

I think all you can do is talk to DGD, reassure her and answer her Qns