I've changed my username but I've been here a very long time. I'm torn about what to do with my child. Please bear with me,at the age of 4 her dad walked out on us , me and her twin . He came back after a year of no contact . There was a 13 day court battle as I wanted to leave the country but he had already put a prohibition on me. It took two years living in a refuge to be allowed to leave. We've left, I got remarried have been for nearly 6 years now. Their dad took me to court again ,they both go to see him regularly, more than court ordered. For the last year she's been having issues with my husband , she says she wants to go live with her dad. He said was shown in court to be coercively controlling, amongst other things such as calling social services on me . I believe he has manipulated her into thinking she will have the perfect life with him in a private school etc etc all the holidays , no expense spared lifestyle. I've tried to make her understand that he can't provide the life she needs ,I know her , I've raised her taken her to school everyday , he doesn't know her like I do, all her wants to do is to get her to livev with him and his parents . They all sing from the same hymn sheet. I've tried to explain things to her rationally but she says I'm not listening to her. Do I just let her go ? She's been through enough trauma in her 13 years I want to protect her but she can't see that. She's deeply unhappy and I just don't know what to do and I'm scared of losing her to her father who I know that this was his goal all along. I thought by having contact with him would be good for them but it's too late. I'm sorry this is so long, thank you for reading ,please be gentle I'm so torn about what to do for the best .