Preparing for mediation with abusive ex and partner, seeking parenting agreement

[OneQuirkyGreySwan]

Ok. So my last thread was removed. But I have decided to go through with mediation. I've had so many abusive messages from my ex and his partner in the past. So I've got all the evidence I need. Going to go to mediation and hopefully get the outcome I want. Ex is a nightmare, don't know why I had a kid with him

This is not going to go how you think it will.

Mediation is not recommended AT ALL for relationships where there is any type of abuse. You're wasting your time and money.

There isn't any abuse. Her ex has valid concerns about his child's safety due to her not effectively supervising her and she thinks that's abuse.

You're better off taking this to court and letting them look at the facts and evidence and deciding whats best for your child, instead of endless threads on MN where you're argumentative and refuse to accept that anything you do is wrong.

I'm not refusing. I'm seeing it from my point of view. What he's saying to me is abusive.

It is abuse. Its emotional abuse. He's hurt me and saying I'm not a fit mother. When all I do is look after her, he doesn't communicate. So I'm having to take it further

If you don't like it. Don't comment then. Scroll on.

I think it will go in my favour. I've not done anything wrong.

Just stop commenting on my posts please.

Supervising your child during the very limited time you see her is the absolute bare minimum and he shouldn't need to communicate about that at all.

So what about when she's ill or hurt or she's had a good day at school. I need to know these things. I once text him at 11am and he didn't text back until 9pm. That's disrespectful

He was probably working, then looking after his child and then putting her to bed! He's not at your beck and call. He doesn't need to inform you of how every day at school has gone.

Ok... so texting will only take 5 seconds. I'm allowed to see how my daughter is every day

So what about when you try to change the day you have your dc because you want to spend time with you new boyfriend?

And you have no legal right to daily contact with your ex.

I didn't change any days

You tried to.

Yes I do, if he has my child. I'm talking to him about my child.

Nope..

Morally, possibly. But by law you don’t.

No you do not. It is a form of control. You see your daughter 8 hours a week. You need to go to court and sort this out. Maybe change it to one weekend every other weekend.

Does your child want to see you?

Yes, what a stupid question of course she wants to see me. She says she misses me all the time. But my ex is twisting things. Yes I see my daughter, once a week. But at least I see her.