Would you send DD to the party?

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DD is 5. Last night I stupidly presented her with an entire pizza for dinner. She doesn't usually over eat and I thought she'd just leave what she didn't want but she ate the whole thing! At bedtime she said her tummy hurt and then at 11pm she woke up and vomited it all up everywhere.

She has a party today which she's desperate to go to (and I'm also keen as she's had some social issues at school and it's a friendship I'd like to cultivate). Would you let her go? I'm sure the pizza caused the vomitting. She has no other symptoms and in her words, she thinks it was "food overload". Then again, if she mentions being sick I don't want the other parents to judge me if they think I'm spreading about a sickness bug!

Wwyd?

when is the party? See how she is?

If she’s fine this morning then, yes I’d take her.

The party's at 11

I think if it’s a bug, she will continue to be sick, if it’s a one off, then probably overate. If she’s feeling fine, then I would say OK to go. My DC used to go mad at buffets eating their favourite things, only to be sick a couple of hours later, fine the next day. Then learnt not to go mad.

I think it depends what’s she’s usually like. Has this happened before where food has made her sick like this? It wouldn’t happen with my dd for example, if she throws up she is unwell and has never thrown up because she ate too much. Other kids are sicky and would throw up for eating and other reasons too.

Id take her if she has no diarrhea and only vomited the once.

I wouldn't because you really don't know the answer. I don't think vomiting once is indicative of not having a virus. I once went on a camping trip were similar was said and we all ended up ill!

That's a tricky one, id think that vomiting from overeating would be close to the time of the meal, but she wasn't sick until 11?

I think you will know after she’s been up for a couple of hours.

Don’t overthink the ‘she needs to go’ thing though. She isn’t going to be left behind socially because she didn’t go to a party because she was sick. She’s only five, there is a loooooong way to go through school with these same people.

And if she does tell anyone she was sick last night that may not be a great thing for everyone to be talking about.

I wouldn't. It is much more likely to be a bug than vomitting due to over eating which isn't something that often happens hours later and causes you to wake up.

Vomiting once doesn't mean it's no a bug and a party is a perfect way to spread it.

This happens to my son. If he’s eaten too much, he’ll be sick around 11-1 just once and then absolutely fine. Used to happen to me too as a kid.

Give her something gentle like plain toast for breakfast and if that stays down then she'll likely be fine at the party and it was just the overindulgence in pizza that caused her to be sick last night.

It's never happened before but then she's never really over eaten before. She usually really good at responding to her body's signals of feeling full (unlike me!)

I wouldn’t take her just to be on the safe side. That’s precisely what the 48 hr rule is for - because you can’t possibly know for sure.

This.

My DDs have had sickness bugs where they’ve just been sick once - I know it’s a bug because other people in the house have gone on to catch it. If it was my child’s party, or my child was going, I’d be quite annoyed if she came.

ETA - I also don’t think that if she keeps down toast for breakfast, it means she’ll be fine. At that age I assume the party is maybe soft play, bouncy castle? Followed by lots of party food? Recipe for vomiting if her stomach is sensitive, even if some toast stays down.

People saying that you aren't sick hours after eating, that just isn't true for everyone. I think if she ate the whole thing close to bedtime could definitely b just that. I am an adult and in the past if I have overeaten before or near to bedtime I have woken up vomiting (which is actually quite scary).

I wouldn’t take her to the party, the pizza could be a co-incidence and she could have caught a bag from school. NHS guidelines say a child should remain at home for 48 hours after the last vomit. You don’t want half the class to be off sick next week because of you. You can still give the birthday child their card and gift on Monday if you wish.

check on her and see how she looks

No, you don’t know it’s the pizza and you don’t know other people’s situations. I’m immunocompromised. I’ve been trying to figure out a way to plan my dc’s party around my treatment and hospital visits. I’d be mighty pissed off if someone sent their vomiting kid to the party and made us all sick and I missed my (life saving) treatment. Just send your apologies and send the present in next week.

Fwiw, the last two vomiting bugs my youngest had, he was sick only once. I know it was a vomiting bug because my other dc got it and in one case, it started at a sleepover and every other child at the sleepover got it. Most of them were vomiting for 2-5 days. My ds, only the once. But it was definitely contagious.

Exactly this

If ok this morn, let her go

Last Summer we attended a children’s party and over the next couple of days loads of kids came down with a sickness bug! Including my two! I mentioned it to a fellow school mum (in a different year) and she said ‘something must be going round as Mary said Henry had been sick once Friday night’. I said ‘What? He was at the party!!!!’ His mum was adamant he was only sick the one time and that may well be true but it left a bit of a sour taste in our mouth.

In my experience, parents are absolutely desperate to find any possible reason for vomiting that isn’t a sick bug, including an unfounded belief that vomiting once can’t be a bug.

I read a story where they deliberately infected people with norovirus. Of the people who vomited, a third only vomited once.

I would let her go if she feels well. Sounds like a straightforward case of overeating.