Are you given much on Mothering Sunday / Mother's Day?

[52inJan]

Just doing some research / being nosy!

What do you get given for Mother's Day, if anything, and how old are the DC and does your partner organise it for them?

Nah I don’t bother with it. They know to be nice to me all the time so don’t need a special day. Never did it with my mum either.

My birthday is very close so we don’t spend much at Mothers Day, and in a lot of ways, I like it more!

DC are 12 & 14 and for the last few years have got £10 each to choose something for me that they think I would like, I love seeing what they’ve chosen! It’s usually something like a candle, a book, a plant, chocolate, just lovely!

My daughters are adults now. I usually get cards, flowers and a few small gifts. I send my mum a card and flowers and chocolates normally.

Definitely take action. I have learned over time that I have to say what I want if it’s getting me down. Even though I wish they just knew! I really care about Mothers Day. I don’t expect a thing on Valentine’s Day or even Christmas (but I encourage my kids with help to buy for both their dad and I because I think it’s good for them, and fun). But Mother’s Day and my birthday feel like two days that can be all about me! When the rest of the year is not so much.

Mine are 7 and 10 and will make their own cards, maybe some prompts from dad. The three of them organise breakfast in bed and my 10yr old now increasingly leading on that as she’s becoming a great wee cook. My husband organises some (usually quite shit 😆) flowers. You can’t have everything!

Nothing, DC are early 20s, might get a text from DD. Even when they were small, Mothering Sunday was for DM and MIL.

My 3 children are adults. From my very first Mother’s Day, to date, all I want is bunches of daffodils and a card.
They all would get me anything, but nothing to me is better than my window ledge, full of daffodils.

Usually a school made card, favourite chocolate bar and some flowers and a small gift. This year I am strongly hinting for a water bottle.

Ex buys it with DD. I reciprocate for Father’s day. When we were married it was breakfast in bed. This year I will buy some nice croissants in advance so DD can bring me those in bed (she is 6).

We will have a joint meal with my mum but not actually on Mother’s Day. It’s my birthday close to it so we will pick another weekend in March and have a big family meal that will be mother’s day/birthday. We aren’t local so it makes sense to do that when it’s not overpriced fixed menus and hideously busy!

D is 21, if she's here I'll probably get a card and a bottle of wine or bunch of flowers. That will be lovely. I'm not bothered if she's away and forgets though. She made much of the day in her younger years and I cherish those memories.

My ex messaged and asked if there was anything I wanted for mother's day or if I was happy to let them choose, I went for the latter. DD can just about work the toaster so I'll probably let her make me some toast and I'll leave a protein coffee in the fridge she can bring up if she wants. They'll have both made cards and bits at school/nursery

We tend to reciprocate overseeing presents from the kids. Ironic that he's made more effort since we split. I vividly remember my first mother's day buying myself a box of chocolates so that when people asked what I got I didn't have to admit to them that 'D'H had declared he wasn't getting me anything because it didn't mean anything if DD hadn't picked it, and "I hadn't really done anything yet to earn thanks on mother's day yet as she was only a few months old". Christ knows why I had a second with him 🤦🏼‍♀️

Erm, I think when the kids were small and my DH alive I got a nice lunch somewhere and a card. Now I don’t expect anything and I won’t be seeing my kids (one lives 80 miles away the other at uni 280 miles away). If they were home we’d go out to lunch or one of them would cook a nice one.

My mother said the current "Mother's Day" was an American import during WW2 and didn't believe in it.
So I have never encouraged my children to do so, either.

She's right about Mother's Day, but Mothering Sunday is a UK and Irish tradition dating from middle ages where you would return to you 'mother church' (where you were baptised) on the fourth Sunday of Lent. The American import (Mother's Day) is celebrated on a different date to our celebrations, but Mothering Sunday has a really long and interesting history https://www.bl.uk/stories/blogs/posts/the-medieval-origins-of-mothering-sunday

When younger whatever they got at school now older I just decide how the day goes and we do that

same for fathers day it is all we want

D'H had declared he wasn't getting me anything because it didn't mean anything if DD hadn't picked it
I'm with him on that one. I think it's a bit odd when adults buy gifts and cards pretending to be from a baby who isn't old enough to be aware of it

I have a severely disabled child who will never be aware of it, however old he gets. My DH buys me something from him to show his appreciation of everything I do for our disabled son. Some mums would never get anything on Mother’s Day if they had to wait for their child to be aware and able to arrange something themselves.
Picking a card and gift on behalf of a newborn on Mother’s Day is just the other parent saying ‘thank you for what you’re doing for our child’. I think it’s nice, and surely not a massive hardship on the parent doing the choosing and buying?

I’m a single mum so don’t really get much. Ex never bothered to help DD do anything when we were together and definitely doesn’t now we’re apart. DD is older now and it’s not really on her radar. I do remind her but I feel if you have to remind and cajole it takes the meaning out of it.

I think it’s shitty of your husband not to organise a little something. Even a hand made card.

Nothing, it's a Hallmark Holiday

We have 2 children +18 yo. They buy me flowers or a book. And a card.
The under 18 yo child makes breakfast with DH and they often find me some nice makeup or alike with a card.
MIL isn't with us anymore . My mum is.
I order her flowers with my sister.

Our little ones are still small but we see it as a part of building family traditions and modelling to them how to show care and so my partner takes them out to pick flowers and oversees a card. Same with birthdays and Father's Day. We then cook an extra nice roast dinner that afternoon.

I'm lucky in that my partner is already quite thoughtful (and I think that comes from how his parents raised him!) but I do always give him a heads up if there's a particular way that I'd like to celebrate something e.g. takeaway pizza and fizz in new pjs for a birthday rather than meal out.

He'll be away on hols with friends this Mother's Day so we're celebrating the Sunday before and my ask this year has been for a walk around the garden centre to pick out a new house plant and a stop for a nice coffee. I don't think the celebrations have to be big but it's great as a family to normalise treating the adults, particularly the women, as fully realised people with feelings and preferences!

I get a handmade card each from my step children and my two little ones and then they all group together and get some rather questionable items that they chose which I love. Questionable items are things like cocomelon socks, brain licker sweets, Christmas snow globe, a mini drum set, Barbie lipgloss, sunglasses with Disney princesses on them 😂. They all make me breakfast in bed with DH help and then we do something on the day like a walk, park, out for dinner, swimming basically something fun. BUT DH always buys me something lovely from the ‘kids’ like an engraved necklace, personalised book, perfume. I get spoiled to be honest

Usually card,one bought that dh gets and one ds makes at school. Flowers, some kind of personalised gift from ds. We will probably go out for a meal too.

I’ve had one dc or another Away at uni for Mother’s Day over the past 4 years but they have sent flowers on Mother’s Day.
The remaining dc at home always offer breakfast and seem to make scones. And a little present of some kind, very thoughtful. They are old enough to organise themselves. Dh used to sort flowers and a present when they were little.
In terms of my own mother, we will drop round with flowers on the day, take her out for dinner in the evening and dsis and I have also booked an afternoon tea for her the following weekend. Dbro does his own thing with her.

I love that they buy you things that would be a treat to them.

My two are young teenagers now, they get their dad to take them shopping and buy me something from their allowance. We’ve always made a fuss of birthdays etc and they both see the importance of celebrating the people they love on special days. Nothing big in terms of gifts, but a token that says they love and appreciate me.

I'm always really well looked after on mother's day - last year I had a couple of lovely presents (nothing super extravagant) that DD bought with DH and she made be a mother's day comic rather than a card which I loved. The we went to the beach for the day with my best friend and her family, played cricket on the beach and flew a kite and had a fire and ate halloumi and sausages and I had a swim in the sea - it was pretty perfect day. Don't think the weather will be as kind this year but we'll still do something lovely I imagine.