dd induced tomorrow and im unwell

[lunarwhisper]

Trying to keep this brief

My dd is 15 and she's 3 days overdue we went to the hospital yesterday for reduced movements all fine but she's been booked in for an induction tomorrow

We arent the closest and werent before the pregnancy either due to her behaviour at the time and she was living with her dad for a few months befoe she found out but i was meant to be her birthing partner .

Since shes been off school we have been closer and going out together when my younger dc are at school but we did have an argument as she wants to call the baby something ridiculous and she called me controlling

The dad isnt the nicest of boys and tbh neither is his dad ive only spoke to him once and that was when i told him dd was pregnant and he said how did his son know its his and called dd a slag

They eventually broke up and he was bullying her along with his friends in school which made her anxious about attending , she blocked him and they had no contact from december until recently , they aren't back together but apparently he does want to be involved

Anyway fast forward to the issue, she is due to be induced tomorrow and I've woken up today vomiting and I don't feel the greatest. The dc’s dad aren't really involved tbh but the plan was he come here and be with the dc (though they'll not be home during the day) and I go with dd. Im now unsure what to do as I wont be much help to dd and obviously with a bug on the labour ward wont be good anyway

The dad is under 16 so i doubt just then would be allowed and I dont think dd would want him there anyway , i don't know if shed want her dad there either(i wouldnt have wanted mine there at 15 and we were much closer than dd and her dad) and im unsure how much use he’d be

What the hell do we do??

The posters saying they would go are sickening. To not even care about their own grandchild, never mind all the other women/babies.

OP has 2 threads on this, same advice on both! You absolutely cannot take a vomiting bug into a hospital.

How have you been overnight @lunarwhisper?

Oh dear! What awful timing. How stressful!

Of course OP shouldn’t go to the hospital! That would be awful.

OP, as someone else suggested, I would get her to the hospital maybe with her dad’s support. When I went in for induction a bed didn’t even become available on labour ward until the next morning. Maybe if she was admitted to induction ward, got the ball rolling then hopefully you could go there as planned when you’ve been 48 hrs without any D&V? Inductions often don’t work straight away anyway and there’s lots of waiting around.

I hope everything goes ok and you manage to get something sorted!

Thinking of it from the perspective I was just getting over being sick and still contagious giving birth to my youngest. Spontaneous labour, nothing to be done about it. The hospital had isolation rooms and protocols. They weren't worried about it at all.

I think the advise on this thread absolutely shouldn't superceded calling the midwives and asking their professional opinions and what pathways are available.

That's not nice. I have a DD16 and DD18 and could not imagine them going through an induction on their own. Pregnancy and labour are a very worrying and stressful time no matter how old you are. I couldn't even think about going through that at 15.

Hooe everything works out for you and your DD op.

You were the one giving birth though and as you said, nothing could be helped about that.

OP isn't the one giving birth so it's a different story. I do agree that ringing them is the best option.

And so you’d be putting the newborns with no immune system at risk…

What’s the point in the OP being in an isolation room? Presumably you mean that she’s in with her DD and a brand new baby, with midwives popping in and out? Possibly a doctor, anaesthetist, care assistant? Who’s going to protect them from a vomiting bug?

The comparison is ridiculous - your mother HAD to be there, you were the patient. The OP DOESNT have to be there, she isn’t the patient 🤣

You’re just going to have to mask up and maybe wear some gloves. You have to be there. Inductions can be horrific

Oh FFS. No she doesn't. She CAN NOT be there. SHE CAN NOT GO INTO THR LABOUR WARS WITH A VOMITING BUG.

What the hell is wrong with people?

The OP posted two threads and has asked if we can close this shorter one and direct everyone to the longer thread in AIBU so she can more easily keep track of the responses.

Here's her other thread - www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5489836-dd15-induction-tomorrow-i-have-a-bug