Tell me about having a son!

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I'm pregnant and just found out I'm having a boy! I'm over the moon, we have a daughter already so getting one of each, and we've had a lot of fertility challenges, so I'm beyond grateful to be here.

The only thing is, I have no idea what boys are like! I have sisters, and never really had any friends who are boys. I don't have any nephews and all my friends somehow had girl babies. I have DH of course but he isn't a very typical "laddy" type and we met really young so I don't have much experience with boyfriends even.

Growing up, I was actually always a bit scared of men and boys - they seemed so different. I know that's not the case, I agree that clothes and interests aren't gendered and the only real difference is penis vs vagina but still. I'm excited to have a boy but just feeling a bit overwhelmed, so any advice from Mum's of boys would be greatly appreciated.

My ds was born 4 years after his sister. Honestly, he was a dream compared to her (she was spirited!) He is at secondary school now and is a lovely boy - polite and friendly and hard working. He is also very funny and cheeky.

As pp will have inevitably said, there’s no such thing as boy/girl parenting because your child is an individual who will develop their own likes and dislikes.

My sons are very different but also get along well. They have very different personalities and the journey to adulthood was different but also satisfying. They are warm, affectionate young men who are lots of fun to be with.

I also have a daughter who had long hair and loved pink but also happily dug up worms and studied neurobiology at uni because she was always fascinated by brains.

Stereotypes hold everyone back so start getting excited by the boy who is a unique DNA mixture of you and your h- literally one in billions combo.

I have to disagree. The usual spray pf wee wheb you take their nappy off can go anywhere. OP make sure you have a Muslin ready to pop on top pf his pension as soon as you take the nappy off or you may get a bit of a surprise, maybe in your eye

Having them from birth, they’re never alien to you like random teenage boys would be if they just dropped into your life.

My son is utterly adorable. Very affectionate, kind, curious, lives for hugs even at nearly 11, and his friends are no worse than my daughter’s friends.

I still find teenage boys intimidating en masse but I imagine that’ll get easier as my boy grows into it.

And at least they can’t get impregnated then dumped.

My DS weed into the doctor’s briefcase. What a cracking shot that was!

I can only give my opinion up until the age of two I’m afraid as my boy is only a toddler. But oh my god he’s the BEST! He’s crazy, hyper, hilarious, funny, confident, affectionate, loving… I could go on. He’s my favourite little person in the whole world. He can go from running laps around the ottoman to cuddling up on the sofa with me to read a book in 30 seconds flat 😂 he really is wonderful and I couldn’t imagine him being anything else. I also have a six month old little girl so I can’t wait to see the ways in which she might be both similar and different. Congratulations, you’re going to have the best time 😊

Boys are AMAZING!!!!

I have two and the house is loud, crazy and chaotic 100% of the time - they never, ever stop being hyper, playfully winding each other up and jumping and running about but it’s hilarious! It’s exhausting but wonderful.

Edited to add: they are the absolute best of friends. They adore each other! And they are total mummy’s boys!!

I disagree, it's very different! Myself and my friends who all had girls first then boys, found the boy babies much clingier as babies, harder to put down, wanted to sleep on us all the time, harder to nap in cots, and as toddlers even more so with mums. In comparison our girls were very easy babies, slept well and were happy to go to other people and not so clingy with mums especially.

Obviously every baby is different but that's been my exper3ince

My 4 yr old son is very stereotypical. I’m from a very girl heavy family so was prepared to bust gender stereotypes with my parenting, but since he could toddle he’s mainly wanted to kick balls, collect sticks and stones, wrestle, make his dinosaurs fight each other, run laps around the house. He’s very high energy. That said, he is also very very cuddly, with me especially. He will sometimes place his grubby hands on my cheeks look at me adoringly and plant lots of kisses on my face 💕

He is currently obsessed with K Pop Demon Hunters.

Also I had no idea how early they start to get erections! The penis obsession is not something that starts at puberty 😆

My eldest is a girl and youngest is a boy who is 2yo. He's absolutely crazy but in the best possible way. When people say second born boys are the craziest they're spot on imo but I wouldn't have him any other way. We all adore him and him and his sister have the best relationship. He climbs everything, runs off and rules the house but does it all with such a cheeky grin you just can't be angry with him. I love being a girl mum and I love being a boy mum. Different experiences but both equally rewarding and seeing their relationship together develop is just precious.

Bigs are wonderful. Sometimes give a bad press, but my boys are young adults now and the most sensitive and affectionate souls 🥰

Wide mix of boys and girls from twins age 2 to oldest age 16 and never have any bother with any of them..love them all

I can only speak from my experience. I am not saying this is all boys but equally you are asking for people to give honest advice and I don't want to lie.

I am a boy Mum of two and I love it so much. Every day I feel I won the lottery. I can't believe I got so lucky to be there Mum. They are my pride and joy. They are both so loving, and funny and full of joy and character. I would not change a single hair on either of their heads.

They also don't ever sit down and are pure chaos. They are full of beans, can be loud and boisterous. I find It hard to go out with them and doing anything civilised. They are still very young but they just want to run around. People often say girls are the same - but from little girls in my family and those of friends that hasn't been my experience. I do think that it can be quite a different experience. Not always, but from what I have seen.

It’s like raising a goat. Muddy, breaks all your nice stuff, climbs everything, constantly eating but bloody adorable.

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They are so individual. My boy is bouncy and dare devil, but so loving and kind. A real joy.

Absolutely. A lot of women like that on Mumsnet, as well. Very boring.

I have 2 adult sons and a daughter. They are truly brilliant. All three have completely different personalities.One son very full on and boisterous as a toddler whereas other son was a gentle blob who was easypeasy . Enjoy.

This 😂

I have two absolutely lovely little boys. One is calm, very thoughtful, gentle, and loves babies/younger children etc. The other is like an excitable puppy that is on the move from the moment he wakes up, adores balls, cars, and climbing everything and anything.

Both are very affectionate. And both love books, baking, role play games, and arts and crafts.

You only know the sex of your baby, you don't know what makes him him yet (and that's the exciting thing!).

They’re FUNNY!! And straightforward. Love being a boy mum of 2. Xxxx

I don’t think this is true. It is true girls are generally (GENERALLY) less physically hard work than boys.

I have three. They are all very different. One is bookish at 13, loves music, Stranger Things and playing d & d with friends.
One will still play with cars at 10, very creative and kind, loves drawing and making things, experiments with wearing perfume, wants his ears pierced one day.
The little one loves me above anything else but Pokemon in close second, very loving and joyful about life.
They are wonderful. All make me so proud. None seem to be able to sit still to eat a full meal!
We eat a lot of dippy eggs. We scrub a lot of muddy trainers. There’s Lego everywhere.
It’s a wild ride!

I have 2 girls followed by a boy and can honestly say having a son is so much fun. Part of the fun is that he is such a mystery to me - he’s SO fascinated by things I find so boring (diggers when he was a toddler, Warhammer, currently Star Wars) that I’m actually fascinated by him!

He’s also very cuddly and sweet and I could just eat him up.

We did reusable nappies and it was easier with a boy than with girls due to the anatomy.

I have two boys - both different. However..

If they shiver when you’re changing their nappy cover them up again fast… or you’ll get wee in your eye/mouth.

Make sure everything is pointing down when sitting on the loo/potty

Lynx Africa can make your nose bleed, and (and I assume this is every teenager not just boys) those yellow spot stars get everywhere.

When they grow bigger than you, their hugs are amazing. But you can still cuddle them like babies if you get them in the right mood.

The mission to not raise a man child may cause raised eyebrow from the generations above - but man is it worth it.

Boys football brings out the worst in adults. And that’s not because girls don’t play football - but the parents (as a parent of a ref) tend to have more self control.