DS always goes to sleep when told off

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Every time I tell my son off he goes to sleep, he is 11 do other kids do this? I feel like it’s used as some kind of guilt trip, he is 11 for reference.

That's kind of odd, isn't it?
I guess that's either part of how he copes with emotional upset?

So I'm thinking maaaaaybe when he gets into trouble, he feels guilt he feels shame or he feels anger or he feels frustration or he feels upset or he feels powerless or some other big emotions and it tires him out and he either falls asleep cuz he's emotionally exhausted which translates into physical exhaustion and it's a way for him to get away from this...(?)

Actually I was just wondering, when he was a little boy, and he got told off or punished, did he ever get sent to his room for a time out or as part of the punishment?
Perhaps told that he couldn't watch TV or couldn't play a video game, go to your room?
I'm wondering if he would stomp off to his room, lay on the bed knowing that he wasn't allowed to do anything and fall asleep and that's just become part of his habit now?
That when he gets into trouble his body just feels tired? I've never heard of this before and it's interesting.

Yup. Had this all my life. Wind literally disappears out of my sails. The only other time I’ve experienced this is breastfeeding - 2 minutes after the let down and it’s like I’d been drugged. Exactly the same. My children are autistic and I suspect I am too

Maybe it helps? Does it matter? Magbe it’s how be copes. What elsw do you want him to do?

Yeah but he’s in trouble. You’re in charge, he’s not.

He is sleeping every time he gets a minor punishment I am wondering why and yes it does affect things as he is not sleeping at night because he’s napped in the day because he has been told off

Sounds like a way to try and regain the ascendancy, particularly refusing to be roused is an indication.

How long is he sleeping for? If it’s more than a few minutes it sounds like he’s actually asleep. You sound kind of annoyed? Arent you worried? What does he say when you ask hom about it? Do you have another chat when he wakes up?

Can be an hour or 2, I try to wake him but he won’t wake up. He only does it when told off

With ds we thought it was low blood sugar because he had issues in that area we did PPP when he was little for positive parenting strategies onevwas time out on the stairs which was tense because he would literally fall asleep and we would need to check his blood sugar (Dr's orders he was just as puzzled as us) so it really wasn't much of a punishment! When he was potty training he literally fell asleep on the potty because he was in time out

what happens if he's told off whilst you're out and about? round town or on a day out etc? is he ever told off at school?

apart from not sleeping at night, it is a worry if it's his coping mechanism because it isn't a practical one. he can't go to sleep half way through maths or in the middle of costa

Sleep is an excellent escape when you’re upset and overwhelmed.

He sounds like he feels high levels of stress, sleep is a response some people have to stress. He's only 11 so needs emotional support to understand and handle stress.

The game is making him stressed, followed by the punishment for not handling the stress of the game.

Rather than punishing after he swears, find a way to reduce his stress before he gets to that point.

Is the gaming making his and your family's life better? If not, change that.