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Toy buggies for boys - your DP's view

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Weegle · 08/06/2008 07:51

DS (2) has a pushchair (not pink) which ranks up in his top 10 toys. DH has no problem with this. However, having seen a friend's little boy playing with the buggy I suggested I buy him one for his bday. I got a text from her this morning saying absolutely no way as far as her DP is concerned is their son having a toy buggy - lawnmower would be fine. What do your DP's think? I really struggle to understand how playing with a buggy is going to affect my child's sense of masculinity, other than maybe to put in his subconscious that actually dad's do play a part other than mowing the lawn?! Would be interested to know what the general consensus on this is.

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FrannyandZooey · 08/06/2008 07:56

I think dps who have problems with this kind of thing must have some kind of isshoos

I mean does her dp never push the child's actual pushchair in case he catches Teh Gay or something?

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Weegle · 08/06/2008 08:07

That's exactly what I text back!

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EffiePerine · 08/06/2008 08:14

I'd think he was an eejit.

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Eve34 · 08/06/2008 08:30

DS got one for Christmas, DP said what has he been given that for - I replied because they knew you would react like that.

He stopped being an arse and DS loves the pushchair - although we have no dolls for it so iggle piggle gets pushed around.

sweetgrapes · 08/06/2008 08:33

My ds loves the pushchair... Puts dolly and teddy and baby in it...
It's becasue he has one and so he loves putting his toys in one - plus the wheels. Anything with wheels is a big hit.

and his is pink (coz it's inherited from his big sis).
and he wears his big sis's baubles and my high heel sandals
and loves dressing up in her frocks/skirts
(He's just 2 btw)

sweetgrapes · 08/06/2008 08:34

I meant he goes around in a pushchair - so loves pretending to be on the other side.

bubblagirl · 08/06/2008 08:38

my ds loved this and i would encourage it too as it is imaginitive play and all little boys have a buggy as far as i can see

you dont stop little girls from playing with cars and why cant boys look after a little baby in a pushchair

will help them be nice to other little children and babies and its just fun buggys were my twin brothers fave toy and he is as macho as you like so didnt affect him and im not butch from playing with cars lol

let them have fun thats what i say my ds has not got buggy anymore he is 3 now but still has 2 baby dolls

partaria · 08/06/2008 09:17

yawn...what's wrong with it ? ds2 had a buggy (teddy pattern I think ?) at age 2.5/3 during my pregnancy with dd. He loved pushing his bears, toy seal etc about in it. He and ds1,also inherited a toy kitchen froma relative when they were 4 and 3 or something. played with it loads, would make us "toast", open a "shop" selling fruit salad, fry ups etc. their friends loved it too. They are 13 and 14 now, have a normal range of friendships, are doing well at school. Completely normal boys in every way. if they turn out gay it won't be because of early toys, that's for sure ! Am I now supposed to stop ds3 at 4.5 from lovingly tucking in his cuddly toys at bedtime fgs ? Dh has never batted an eyelid; why on earth would he ?

geordieminx · 08/06/2008 09:27

ds 13 months has had one for a couple of months now as he is totally obsessed with wheels. Now he's walking he loves pushing iggle piggle around in it... Or trying to mow the poor cat over. Dp has no problems with it at all, he has lots of toys, some 'boy' toys, most unisex and a couple of girly ones.

PortAndLemon · 08/06/2008 09:35

I agree with Franny. I think a father who objects to a boy having a toy buggy is distinctly screwed up .

DS doesn't have one here, as it happens, but plays with them at nursery and has one at MIL's house.

RusselBrussel · 08/06/2008 09:39

Ds had one when he was a toddler. It was a red 'elmo' one. He would push his teddy in it.
Dh was very happy with the idea and often took ds to the park with it.

Before we bought it ds was forever pinching the little girl's buggies in the park and at toddler group etc.
It also encouraged ds to actually walk as he was a lazy little tike

Love2bake · 08/06/2008 09:44

My DS's both had toy buggy's and they loved them.

DS 2 used to put cars and trucks in his.

My DH didn't have a problem with it.

SmugColditz · 08/06/2008 09:47

The most ridiculous thing is, it's homosexual men who are statistically least likely to be pushing a pushchair around as an adult!

threestars · 08/06/2008 10:03

DS LOVED pushing around a pushchair when he was younger. He never put a toy or anything in it. The whole point of it was that it had WHEELS (wowweeee, his favourite things).
Now he's older, he's definitely a very masculine boy. Loves transformers and start wars, stuff like that . Wish he didn't, he's only 3.

threestars · 08/06/2008 10:04

STAR wars, I meant...

RusselBrussel · 08/06/2008 10:05

Really Colditz? I see quite a few dads in my neighbourhood pushing the pram quite happily. And quite a few of the school run dads too.
And I always had to fight dh for the pram/buggy when the dc were little.

Ah........ the men in my neighbourhood are not heterosexual...

RusselBrussel · 08/06/2008 10:06

Ah, sorry Colditz, I misread your post. I mistook homosexual for heterosexual.

Please ignore me, I need another coffee.

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Weegle · 08/06/2008 10:12

wow, been doing the tesco shop come back, lots of replies, thank you!

I feel a bit miffed by it actually. Kind of feel that by them saying that they are making a judgement on us having one for our DS. Probably taking it way too personally and judging from everyone's view here it's really not an issue. Perhaps I feel more miffed that she suggested I could buy him a lawn mower, a gift is a gift and all that...

DS taking his baby doll for a ride on the slide as I speak...

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Tinkjon · 09/06/2008 06:55

A friend of mine said that her husband didn't want their DS playing with a pram and I was incredulous. I can understand some men not wanting their sons to mimic overtly female behaviour, such as putting on make-up etc. (they're idiots if they do object to things like that, but I can understand them doing so ) but pushing a pram is perfectly normal behaviour for a grown man so why should it be any different for a child, FFS?!

SquiffyHock · 09/06/2008 07:05

Just remind her that a buggy has wheels. Boys love anything with wheels. DS (4) had a buggy which now, generally, belongs to DD but he still has mad half hours when he runs around with it like a maniac

cory · 09/06/2008 07:36

lol at Colditz

TattooedGrrrl · 09/06/2008 08:45

i've bought my son one for his 2nd birthday- i was fully prepared tp get him a pink one, but ELC had a blue one. DH couldn't give a monkeys, and thinks he's going to love it.

bogie · 09/06/2008 08:53

ds loves pushchairs dp has no problem what so ever he's 2 he also loves babys and sparkly things we live next door to 2 girls and he likes to copy everything they do.

Seona1973 · 09/06/2008 12:55

ds (20 months) likes his elc blue buggy but loves his blue baby doll even more and walks about everywhere with it. It was only £3 from tesco so a bit of a bargain (had to buy a spare though just in case the original goes awol/gets too filthy, etc)

minouminou · 11/06/2008 09:53

Now, come on, this guy should know you only catch the gay by moisturising.
I doubt my dp would give it a second thought.

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