DD said something weird and i’m not sure how to feel about it

[uk1990]

i have alternate weekends and half of holidays with DD and she lives with dad full time.

DD and i are fine for the most part, she doesn't respect me at times and i have no authority but i try my best. This weekend she said ‘mama, i hope you hate your name’ out of the blue, and then i was confused, stayed quiet and she started laughing and said it was a joke.

Am i missing something????

its wasn’t funny and i wasn’t laughing.

My actual name lol

Honestly, kids say all sorts of weird shit! You're overthinking it, I'd let it go.

This.
They really do.
Don't read into it.

My niece was a chatterbox at that age, she never stopped talking. She’d come out with weird stuff, because I think she sometimes ran out of stuff to say, but she couldn’t stop talking,

She grew up fine though.

This made me feel relieved. Agree with all the above, i think i’m over analysing

This is the first thing I thought of too tbh.
Probably ties in with your daughter not showing you respect.

You can't do anything about what someone might be saying about you but you can definitely talk to your daughter about respect.

Your ex sounds like you're lucky to be well rid of him. Blaming you for his ex leaving him and for him being in hospital. What a twat.

I think you are overthinking this. Kids say wierd stuff sometimes. Maybe she heard a joke she did not understand properly and thought this would be funny but clearly it was not. Just say 'that's not funny' and move on. I seriously doubt she was being malicious. You are her mother and she loves you.

Is it possible that she is unhappy with her own name? Kids that age are funny about names. My dd who has a beautiful name which she loves now at 23, was wanting to changer her name to Dorito around that age. I really wouldn't put too much thought into it.

I'd ask her to explain why it's funny, but it sounds like you did and she wasn't willing or able. If she hasn't brought it up again I'd let it go. Even if she's heard someone say they dislike that specific name, it's an ugly or bad name, etc. - whether in reference to you or just the name in general - that's not really personal or even an insult. An 9yo might even feel sorry for someone with an "ugly" name or a name they dislike. It's not like saying she hopes you're embarrassed or ashamed or unhappy about some aspect of your past or current life that you DO control.

Mt first thought is that she doesn't like her name and her Dad had told her you chose it so now she feels a bit bitter about it. I would've responded with "Sorry to disappoint you but I love my name. How do you feel about your own name?".

I was thinking it may have something to do with what she could have heard at her dad's house.

I wouldn’t overthink this.

Just say you are quite happy with your name.

Might she think you don’t like being a mama, or her mama?

Are you not in the UK ? Just ignore it, she will grow up and love her mama if you are a good mama. That's my advice. You will just drive yourself mad overthinking about people talking about you behind your back, when non of us can control that type of situation. There is no proof and you need to just make your time with your daughter count as good times for the memory bank.