My 11 year old daughter not interested in going out …

[Winterlover2020]

Hi just need a bit of reassurance… my daughter is 11 and just started secondary. Has settled in well and despite one hiccup with her primary school friend which was quickly sorted she seems to be making new friends. She’s a homebody loves being home with me and her dad (and her brother sometimes ha!) but doesn’t have any interest in hanging out with anyone outside of school - she has never liked the park just says it’s boring and I’m not sad to be honest as it gets quite dodgy round there! We see girls from her school hanging out but she’s not fussed (so she says) to not be asked as she’d rather be home is that ok? - I think school has been full on first term so she needs chill time! Just talk to others whose kids never want to be home and worry … she also doesn’t ever ask anyone to hang out so guess it’s just her and is she’s happy I should be happy and has my husband says don’t keep on she’s fine and she may change and then you’ll worry!!

Perfect. Thanks for sharing

leqve the poor giel alobe she is 11 years old fgs At 11 and beyond i would be doing an activity dancing majorettes gymnastics etc and then coming home to chill and read leave her be

She is going to get enough messaging from society that there is something wrong with her for not fitting some ridiculous teen stereotype. Don’t add to the problem. Celebrate your daughter just as she is.

I could have written this. Same age daughter, just started year 7, no interest in doing much beyond hanging at home and family stuff. Fairly sure we are in a new phase and she’s moving through something as she’s definitely a bit introverted and quieter than usual, but doesn’t seem in any way unhappy. I’m just trying to go with the flow. As with you @Winterlover2020my husband, her dad, couldn’t be less worried. It’s me whose concern!

If she is an introvert, she might find it exhausting to be around people at school all day. Sometimes, it's just nice to come home to have a break!

She might prefer her own company, or just time to do things that interest her but not her schoolfriends.

My 13yo ds isnt interested in standing round the park or the local shops either
I'm so glad for it - he does all his socialising through sport at the moment so not worried

Thanks for all the responses to my post nice to know I’m not alone and there is nothing to worry about!! She’s quite resilient and not getting too caught up in the whole best friend business preferring lots of different friends! I guess I just worry she’s covering up feeling left out but I do stress to her that friendships are two way and you need to ask/make effort/include yourself people won’t just ask you! 11 is young and secretly happy not to have to worry about her out and about just yet.

My son is also 11. His school is 10 miles from our house and his friends live 6-10 miles away from us. He chats with them online, messages them but doesn't ask to meet up. He did go to one friend over the summer and he's meeting up with another at a fireworks display (but both sets of parents wil be there).
Outside of school he plays tennis, swims and goes to Scouts. He does his homework and then chills out. I'm sure the day will come when he wants to be out and about but we're happy to know exactly where he is.