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Hating BF second child

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NEladybird1269 · 24/10/2025 20:44

Hello - I EbF dc1 for a year. Assumed I’d do the same for second dc. But actively hating bf this time. Hate latching. Hate it all. The pain. The constant of it. Missing out on dc1. But feel guilty if I stopped. We are only two weeks in 🙈 has anyone else had this with second dc?! I really had no problems with dc1 and Bf

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 26/10/2025 21:16

NEladybird1269 · 26/10/2025 15:04

Thanks everyone. To be honest I’ve found all the messages helpful and lots for me to think about / will see how things pan out. But I feel slightly better I think. I also managed to do DC1 bedtime last night. She said she was happy for me to feed baby on a chair next to her bed while she laid in bed and her and I chatted before she fell asleep as we used to. So that was nice.

That's a good update.
I think it always feels better when you know that your older child is still getting some important time with you.

Enough4me · 26/10/2025 23:53

It sounds like you are finding a new routine and things may settle with time. Ultimately, whatever you decide is the right decision.

I didn't particularly enjoy BF but it was handy when taking DC1 out as it meant not making and taking bottles out. I was fed up with bottles as I'd needed them for DC1 and the sterilising etc is a pain. If feeding had been uncomfortable after a few months I'd have reverted to bottles as there is no one right way. It's just what works for you and your family.

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