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Single EU mom wants to move to England with her 9 year old

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Beatrix91 · 19/09/2025 08:17

Hello! Thank you for taking the time reading this.God knows I need all the help i could get.
So.. I am a single mom(31), which lived in the UK for 2 years(2016-2018) with an abusive partner. With the help of my mom and her husband I am raising my child rn, but I want to “spread my wings” and do it on my own , and doing some math , UK might allow me to be able to raise a child as a single mom. But I know after Brexit and Covid ,and in all these years a lot of things had changed.
Can you please walk me through what I would need to be living there? As a single mom, what expenses should I look forward to? What benefits may I get? After how long? My daughter speaks 3 languages(obviously not so good as a native, but she can manage) . Are teachers patient with new kids?
Btw.. dad’s not in the picture anymore(bad living style brought him death) , and I might not have any other financial help, because my mom and her husband would not like my decision .
I am not looking to be living like a princess, I just want to give my daughter a present(spend time with her) and a future(take care of her and giving her opportunities)!
Again , thank you all for all the help you are willing to give!

Single EU mom wants to move to England with her 9 year old
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AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 19/09/2025 08:20

You wouldn’t be entitled to any benefits, why on earth would you think you would be?

Tunacheesequesadilla · 19/09/2025 08:26

Do you or your daughter have British citizenship? If not, then this is probably a non-starter. It costs a lot of money to emigrate to the UK and you would not be entitled to any benefits.

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Beatrix91 · 19/09/2025 08:31

Thank you for your response! No! We don’t have a British citizenship. I am aware of the Visa, that is the only information I am aware. I meant, benefits after I start working there. Of course , rn I would not be entitled to anything. Its the other questions that I have got no clue.

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Beatrix91 · 19/09/2025 08:33

Thank your for your response. I meant after I start working , after a while. I am aware of not being entitled to anything rn, and the Visa requirements. Those are the only things I am sure of . If you can let me know something else , please do!

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Tunacheesequesadilla · 19/09/2025 08:35

What visa would you be looking at? What is your job now?

Fatcatsinspats · 19/09/2025 08:37

Where are you living now? Why the UK. Are there not other EU options?

sesquipedalian · 19/09/2025 08:39

If you are a single parent and have help from your parent, I think you’d be very foolish to seek to move here. How will you be able to get a job that pays well enough to get a work visa? Please don’t think that in coming here, you’ll be able to access benefits - why on earth would you think that? I really don’t think you have thought things through - it seems you are much better off staying where you are.

Comedycook · 19/09/2025 08:39

I just want to give my daughter a present(spend time with her

What do you mean by this? Why would you need to come to the UK in order to spend time with your dd?

Summerhillsquare · 19/09/2025 08:41

Oh give over.

Almostwelsh · 19/09/2025 08:41

As far as I'm aware, even after getting a job you will not be able to access any benefits. You will also have to pay a considerable sum each year to access the NHS.

What are you qualified to do? It's quite expensive to employ someone on a work visa, so unless your career is in demand you will struggle to get work.

FlorenceAndTheVagine · 19/09/2025 08:43

In your position I would be moving to one of the myriad EU countries available to you.

Toomanywaterbottles · 19/09/2025 08:43

Do you mean something different by “benefits”? Benefits here mean monies given to you by the government in case of need.

Whyherewego · 19/09/2025 08:46

The first step in moving to UK is to secure a job that will enable you to get a visa.
Without that there's little point in working out the rest.
Because the location of the job determines the costs of rentals, cost of childcare, what school your DC gets to go to which determines how she will be taught and all that stuff.
Other than that the UK is similar to any other European country. There's good points and bad points. There's no particular magic to it

caringcarer · 19/09/2025 08:47

If you were working full time you wouldn't be able to give much time to your DD. You'd be better staying put where you have the support of your Mum to help you to raise your DD. Family is very important and if you came to the UK you'd have no one if you fell ill.

Yamap · 19/09/2025 08:48

The UK is a shithole. Why would you want to come here? Your child will almost certainly receive a better education where you currently reside.

Mauro711 · 19/09/2025 08:53

There are so many EU countries that offer much better quality of life than the UK, why do you specifically want to go there? Which 3 languages do you and DD speak?

Branleuse · 19/09/2025 08:57

In my kids old primary school, they were brilliant with getting kids from other countries up to speed in English. I cant speak for everywhere, but it was quite a diverse town centre school, and it was impressive how quickly kids settled in.
I hope you find a way to get your dream

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Beatrix91 · 19/09/2025 09:03

Thank you for your response. Why would you say that? What happened to you/your loved one?

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booksunderthebed · 19/09/2025 09:04

If you want to move to an english speaking country with some similarities you could look into moving to Ireland. Moving to the UK seems impossible even if you are married to a UK citizen.

You can move to Ireland and get a job tomorrow, no visa needed. After 4 or 5 years you can get Irish citizenship which also allows you to live in the UK. (you probably won't want to by then)

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Beatrix91 · 19/09/2025 09:06

Thank you for your response. Me: Romanian, Italian , English and Spanish. DD the first three. Both Italy and Romania are difficult to find jobs that help me support my daughter and myself. And I know nothing about other countries.

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Beatrix91 · 19/09/2025 09:07

It’s my first time hearing about this! I will look into it!Thank you for your response.

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Beatrix91 · 19/09/2025 09:10

Thank you for your response. You are right ! I would need to work all the Visa requirements first. I will try do that and hopefully have more answers then, also more clues as to where to search for anything.

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LIZS · 19/09/2025 09:10

Unless you already had pre-settled status your options for benefits and services like NHS may be limited. Where you do hope to live and work? What work experience do you have? Do you have sufficient funds to qualify to move? Living costs vary widely and many single parents struggle with finances and juggling childcare.

AlohaRose · 19/09/2025 09:10

Why specifically do you think the UK is going to be easier for you and provide a decent standard of living for you and your daughter? Have you done any research at all? What is your current job and qualifications and what do you wish to do for work when you get to the UK?

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