Single EU mom wants to move to England with her 9 year old

[Beatrix91]

Hello! Thank you for taking the time reading this.God knows I need all the help i could get.
So.. I am a single mom(31), which lived in the UK for 2 years(2016-2018) with an abusive partner. With the help of my mom and her husband I am raising my child rn, but I want to “spread my wings” and do it on my own , and doing some math , UK might allow me to be able to raise a child as a single mom. But I know after Brexit and Covid ,and in all these years a lot of things had changed.
Can you please walk me through what I would need to be living there? As a single mom, what expenses should I look forward to? What benefits may I get? After how long? My daughter speaks 3 languages(obviously not so good as a native, but she can manage) . Are teachers patient with new kids?
Btw.. dad’s not in the picture anymore(bad living style brought him death) , and I might not have any other financial help, because my mom and her husband would not like my decision .
I am not looking to be living like a princess, I just want to give my daughter a present(spend time with her) and a future(take care of her and giving her opportunities)!
Again , thank you all for all the help you are willing to give!

I know.. I ve never got them, but heard a lot of people getting help when having kids, also google says that. I know i must meet some requirements before getting anything. If you have anything else to share please do.

Why the UK? The country isnt what it used to be, maybe research that first

Thank you for your response. Because the other two options (countries) are almost impossible to do it on my own. And that is what I want to know about .. how is it now? Google and different sites do not give me all truth. The answers are varied. So I asked you guys for help

You need an employer who will sponsor you for a work visa. These days there are very few of those, and most look for very highly skilled employees in certain sectors: medicine, engineering, finance. Work visas are also very expensive plus there is a hefty NHS surcharge.

What is your current job? You would be better off moving to another EU country.

You will need firstly a job to sponsor your visa and it needs to earn over £38,000 you can’t just come to the U.K. and get benefits anymore. So I think you’ll probably have to choose a different country

Yes, I forgot that you need to earn ovet £38,000 annually to be sponsored by an employer. Average London wage is £35,000.

Do you really want to leave your mom as she is getting older and may need your help?

New immigrants are not entitled to benefits until they get indefinite leave to remain which takes 5 years and could well take longer as the government is trying to reduce immigration.

You will not receive any benefits.

I am struggling to work out what visa you think you’ll get. That’s the first step and I don’t think you’re going to be able to find a way.

But you aren’t a British citizen? Neither is your daughter? Why on earth are you trying to move to the UK - you aren’t entitled to any benefits?

I guess you don’t have a skilled job either or you would have mentioned that.

So best of luck to you but I suggest staying in the EU.

“Both Italy and Romania are difficult to find jobs that help me support my daughter and myself.”

And what makes you think the UK would be any different? With no support and as a single parent, you’d find it very difficult. And housing here is very expensive.

Unless you are able to access a high paid job and/or have support network in another country I would not contemplate moving.

The only English speaking country in the EU, Ireland, has an horrendous housing shortage in the capital (Dublin) and it’s not great elsewhere.

School hours are shorter and holidays longer - so you will need childcare. On the whole it’s not cheap by any means. There is also an anti immigrant backlash in some areas.

Personally for standard of living I would look at Scandinavia, but only if you are able to access a professional job.

Can you move to another area in Romania (?) to access better opportunities for you and your daughter?

What sort of job would you be looking for? A skilled position, if so what? If we know that might be easier to answer. And if no skill/low skilled, then you’re probably not going to be able to do it as the salary won’t cover you.

I would think housing costs are a lot lower in Romania than in the UK

You aren’t going to be able to come here and have a better life OP, you will not be entitled to benefits and there is a high cost of living so unless you are going to get a job earning a significant amount I would forget about it!

I get you want to give your child a better life, but I’m astounded you think you can rock up here and get free money from our government

OP I think you are being misled by thinking you would be entitled to child benefits as an immigrant. This was the case when the UK was in the EU, but it is no longer the case. You will not be entitled to anything, even free healthcare for many years, even if you manage to get a work visa.

If you are Romanian I think you would have a better quality of life in Bucharest than the UK unless you are in a career that is a shortage area in the UK and very well paid. Certainly I know of Romanian IT professionals who get better paid in relation to the cost of living in Bucharest than they would in the UK.

Don’t come to the UK.

Good luck in Romania 🇷🇴