I’m beginning to hate twin parenting

[Twinmumhelp]

my twins are 14.5 months old and we had the vaccinations this week, so it’s been particularly rough. They are boys and I’m constantly exhausted, every night time is touch and go. Tried to sleep train, magnesium spray, no lights on, general routine etc. Doctors are useless and really there’s no help out there for twin parents. My partner is AMAZING and I don’t know what I would do without him. Today I had thoughts of giving them up for adoption, so I know I need to seek some help as I am suffering postpartum but I wondered what any other twin mums have to say. they are taken on walks, read to a lot and we try our best to feed them all the good stuff. I’m terrified of when they get bigger as I find their personalities demanding. Our mothers help here and there but both work and I think also find it exhausting so they are helping less and less. It’s wearing down our relationship and I dread coming home to this.. I love them but did not plan to be a multiple mum and although I wanted kids, cannot believe how hard this is.

I had twin girls. They were tiny at birth. They slept through the night at 3. Hardly ever slept at the same time in the early months. It’s exhausting. I remember hearing my husband’s car coming down the drive. Knowing he’d be in the house any minute, after a day at work, I hid. He was frantically looking for me. I stayed hidden for quite some time. Getting out of the house to attend any mother and baby club etc was difficult. Getting myself dressed was some days. I did have helpful parents who had retired and a supportive friend who had twins when her first born was 20 months. I did feel trapped quite often.
It really does get better. They go to the same school, same swimming classes etc. Thry are still great friends and now, watching our 4 grandsons, having to do things alone, being a twin is a positive. The benefit of having them will come eventually. You have my sympathy.