Is it innapropriate for in laws (female) all to share a changing room with my 6 year old son when they take him swimming?

[boymumtoone]

Not sure if this is inappropriate or if I am looking into it too much but my 6 year old son's grandma, auntie, 2 cousins and great grandma all go swimming together once a week during half terms which is great for my son and he has a lovely time swimming however the other day a comment was made that my 6 year old saw his aunties boobies and I was confused at first but my son told me after that when they go swimming together they all share one changing room at once (my son, his grandma, his auntie, his two little cousins and great grandma). Hence him seeing his aunties "boobies".

i don't think I'm comfortable with them all getting dressed and naked in front of my 6 year old son especially being the age his is as he is at an age where his notices a lot more (rather than being a baby that doesn't take any notice of things like that).

obviously I know taking him swimming would mean that somebody would need to share a changing room with him to get dressed but my son being exposed to multiple (naked) women in one changing room is what I'm feeling slightly uncomfortable over.

would anybody else feel the same or do you think I am being silly maybe ?

and what age would be considered not right for the opposite sex to share a changing room with my son?

If he’s in a communal changing room he will possibly see lots of breasts not just family but realistically most people don’t flaunt there nakedness they try to get dressed as fast and modestly as they can surely .

It’s weird as fuck they all share one cubical. I used to go swimming at that age and we all had our own cubicle.

Maybe they were all getting changed under towels but something slipped. If they are all getting changed together it’s most likely because aunty needs held wrangling 2 little ones. It’s effort enough changing one toddler.

If he mentions it again just explain that they are called breasts and are for feeding babies.

You are being absolutely and completely unhinged.

He should be able to have his own cubicle in the female cha gong room - not sure why they all go in together. I would not want him to get cha fed in the male area until the swimming pool staff insist - for us this was around age 10.

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I work with sex offenders, almost all men, he's safer with female relatives than unknown men in the male changing rooms. Also they're all together so he's not alone with a naked adult.

Did you want to seek views, genuinely?

Of course it’s perfectly fine to see his relatives bodies in such an innocent manner. He’s 6 not 16. Boobies are funny to kids at that age because the word is funny. Any grown up teaches kids they’re for feeding babies.

Who would you like him to share a cubicle with? Presumably they all go in together (must be a massive cubicle) so the adults can share helping the children.

It’ll be a family changing room. I use one when I take my grandchildren (boy of 7, girl of 5) swimming. They don’t see me completely naked because I am discrete and have a towel, plus turn my back when putting on my bra. They might get a quick glimpse but I don’t think it would scar them for life!
if there was a girl in with male relatives, the males would easily be able to change discretely by slipping off trunks and putting underpants on under a towel.

Let me guess, you’re using grandma for free childcare and micromanaging what she does?

Yes you are bat shit crazy

no it’s not inappropriate

Of course it is!

What is your specific concern? That the wider family are somehow getting a sexual thrill from flashing your son? As PP have said it’s normal and healthy for children to see bodies in non sexual situations and this is a great example of a perfectly normal time for his female relatives to be naked (albeit I imagine for a very brief moment. It could be that there were not many changing rooms free in the summer holidays in a heatwave or just that your extended family are more comfortable than you are with nudity whilst getting changed but it would be a shame for your son to miss out on an activity he likes because of your hang ups with the human body. If it’s a deal breaker for you I guess you can pay for childcare on the days they go swimming.

Well seeing as 92-99% of sex offenders are men, it makes complete sense to feel safer with women in this sense and means they are 2 completely different scenarios.
So faux naive to pretend its the same.

YABU. You expected him to go into the changing room with grandma but you’re freaking out about him going in with aunty. Struggling to see what is the difference between the two.

Obviously we don’t know what the set up of this pool’s changing facilities looks like. But I’ve only ever seen ones where there is a large male communal area, a large female communal area, and then a very small number of individual cubicles and family cubicles and good luck getting one at peak times.

It's just naked bodies, and hes only 6. Very very strange reaction OP to even worry about this.

I wouldn't worry at all. He's safe, that's the main thing. I highly doubt he's seeing much and it would be a pity to spoil his time with them. I would be enjoying the break if I were you!

I detest the weirdly British idea that children must not see naked bodies in normal, non-sexual contexts. I think it's much more unhealthy for children to reach sexual maturity and not have seen any kind of naked body/be forced indulge their curiosity via unrealistic porn.

I would argue it's actually positive that your son will have some idea what a normal female body looks like!

Did your female relatives ever take you swimming whilst your mum worked? It’s not like they’re randomly stripping off in front of him is it?

Is your mind at ease now?

There is absolutely no way that your child seeing a breast is comparable to a girl seeing a penis.

Breasts are not genitalia, they are just an upper body part, and one that is for feeding babies for that matter. I cannot stand this over sexualisation of breasts, led by men, that has led to a situation where women - family women as well - stand accused of being"inappropriate" like this in a changing room for "exposing" themselves FFS.

If your son went on holiday abroad he would see 100s of women sunbathing topless, not one of them "inappropriate". Not to mention the potential to see women breastfeeding in any country at any given moment!

Stop being so dramatic and repressed about a basic body part.

If he's uncomfortable, could he dress himself in his own cubicle and then wait for your relatives outside theirs?