MN POLL: would you go abroad for 2 weeks, if your daughter was 36-38 weeks pregnant with her 1st baby?

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would you ?

Nope! Wouldn't want to risk it

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Nope - in fact my Mum and Dad changed their holiday when I told them I was expecting DD1, they were due to go away first 2 weeks in September and I was due on 11th Sept, they went in July instead. No issues with DD2 as she was due early January

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depends when the holiday was booked , how much I needed a break and how close to the daughter I was.

If I lived 200 miles away i dont think a flight is much different iyswim

er yes, why not if it has been planned a while. The world doesn't stop and it could very well arrive late rather than early.

both mine and dh's parents will be away the week before I am due, dh's parents also away the week i am due. then they are back for a week, then away for another week......

So erm some people do!

Personally I wouldnt, but my Mum was due to go away the week after I gave birth to DS 10 weeks premature, and I was more than happy for her to go despite her saying she should stay at home.

Difficult decision, but in all fairness there's only so much you can do, and if other people were there to support her, Im sure she'll have plenty of help.

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Oh and DD1 was their first grandchild and they were more excited than us (although thinking about DD2 made me realise my Mum didnt drink at any Christmas do's that year in case I went into labour early as they were our childcare for DD1)

Depends if my daughter minded or not.

She would probably prefer to have her partner about and give birth in peace.

First time mums are often overdue anyway.

Yes, probably. Not as if would be required to look after an older child if is first baby. Would be prepared, if was that way inclined, to come back if the baby did arrive earlier. But they don't usually, do they (taking on board that term is anything from 38 - 42 weeks).

I wouldn't want to risk not being there cod! If it was my first grandchild I'd be there waiting in the wings till I got the call to come and visit! If that was after a couple of days then so be it, but I'd want to be in the same country

we are not sure what we will do about childcare though....

I think my parents just wanted to be the first ones to see her to be honest also glad they were there as had elective c section and DH was turning a very perculiar shade of green before we went to theatre so was glad that there was a 'back up' person if he hadnt made it into theatre with me (he hates hospitals and it was a big thing for him to sit through the c section with me)

Nope, would want to be on hand to help.My mum was a life saver when I had just had the 3 dcs. Only fair to do the same for my dd.

yes, my mum came down 2 weeks after the birth when people had forgotten about me and tiredness had really kicked in and she was a godsend.

Er, yes.

Yes I would. First baby, so a fair old chance it would be overdue.

My PILs came home from holiday the day after my DD was born, and tbh we could have done with having them around to look after our older one. More imporrtant they are around for subsequent babies imo!

I don't have girls but I wouldn't and don't expect my parents to put their life on hold for me. And if my mythical daughter was expecting her first child she wouldn't need help with childcare for older siblings so can't see what the problem is. What are you expecting here to do?

Yes I would go if already booked but would arrange it deliberately. Chance that baby will be born during that time relatively small.

can i qualify that by saying only if the holiday was booked before I knew about the baby being due. I doubt I'd book anything if I already knew about the imminent arrival though.

Yes of course. She's not the one having the baby. If you have a partner to be with you and make appropriate preps etc... my mum was great after each DC, visiting for a week after DH went back to work. The only time she wasn't much use was when she unexpectedly turned up the day after DD2 was born as I hadn't stayed in hospital... it's your baby & your DH/P and you need to work out what to do with it! Your job is to rest and feed the baby, DP/H's job is to feed you, other DCs and make sure you rest...

Yes of course. She's not the one having the baby. If you have a partner to be with you and make appropriate preps etc... my mum was great after each DC, visiting for a week after DH went back to work. The only time she wasn't much use was when she unexpectedly turned up the day after DD2 was born as I hadn't stayed in hospital... it's your baby & your DH/P and you need to work out what to do with it! Your job is to rest and feed the baby, DP/H's job is to feed you, other DCs and make sure you rest...