Please help me

[Tattyteddy2]

I have a nearly 3 yo dd and a nearly 1 yo dd. Whilst pregnant with dd2 I often felt regretful and suicidal. Since having her it has got worse. I feel now like I can’t cope. DD1 goes to a childminders twice a week, nothing for DD2. My house is in disarray. I cannot cope with caring for them what do I do please someone help me.

Please reach.out to.your GP.or HV or a friend.
Tiny children are hard work. You.might have PND. It will not be such a grind forever.
Do.you.have a partner? Or parents around?

I’ve tried both gp and HV today but couldnt get an appointment. My partner is occasionally around but works a lot. One of my parents has recently under gone surgery so not able to lean of them

I tried again with gp and hv at end of last week. Hv said they were too busy with newborn checks to give me and appointment and gp said there are no appointments. Is there anywhere else I can contact for support does anyone know?

They can’t be too busy with newborn checks that they are not giving anyone appointments, they’re robbing you off. Phone back, don’t mention it being related to pregnancy as that was a while ago and just tell them you are suicidal and need support. Does your partner no how you feel? Or any family?

Does your gp know that you are feeling suicidal? Because they will typically prioritise appointments in such cases. It's worth being explicit with the receptionist when you call.

Your GP's website may also have details of who to contact when in crisis and its out of hours.

The Samaritans are there 24/7 when you need to talk: 116 123

We're here to listen as well if you'd prefer to talk with us?

If you feel that you or your children aren't safe this evening though, please do call 999.

Please call 111 and explicitly tell them that you are feeling suicidal as it does change things. I have had severe mental health issues and when having a mental health crises couldn’t get anyone to listen either so I spoke to 111 and they helped me. They are 24/7. It’s super important that you get the help now before things deteriorate. Please keep talking to us too, I really feel for you, with the right help things do get better. 3 and 1 are tough ages even without additional issues on top, mine are 9,7 and 3 now, I am in a better place. Please let us know how you get on too.

Hi Tattyteddy2,

Wwe're really sorry to hear you're feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected], or call them (free) on 116 123, 24 hours a day, 365 days of the year.

We also wanted to steer you in the direction of an organisation which could give you some support - PANDAS - Pre- And post-Natal Depression Advice And Support foundation. They have a free (bookable) call back service and can also give support via email and Whatsapp. Please take a look at their website.

We really hope things start feeling a bit easier for you soon.