Accidently threw my baby on the sofa

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I accidently threw my 3 month old on the sofa.
I was sitting on the sofa with them on my lap i seen a spider crawling up me right by them I instantly threw them on the next seat to me I as jump up to get spider off me. They landed on their front I have a leather sofa. They didn't cry or anything. They are seem completely fine. But know I am in complete and utter shock and guilt that I have done that i am now constantly panicking. I also feel like a terrible mother.

Oh bless you, your baby will be fine. We've all done similar! Don't beat yourself up, just give them an extra cuddle to make up for it.

Agree, can't be helped now and if it was from your lap to the sofa... well... wait till they're walking and every sharp corner seems to be a magnet for their head xx

I'm sure it's ok, it was a soft landing.

I'm sure she's fine but it was lucky you were on the sofa.

Baby will be fine. Cut yourself some slack OP

If this is really what happened then don’t worry it happens to the best of us. I once fell at the bottom of the stairs and thew my baby to put my arms out to protect my fall. She was about 1 though and I still felt awful as I chose to save myself in the split second. I don’t think it’s a choice I think it’s automatic.
however, since I don’t know you I have no way of trusting what you are saying is true, and I’d just like to put it out there that throwing a baby down on a surface, even a soft surface like a cot bed or sofa, can cause SIDs. If she seems fine now then I wouldn’t worry; just keep an eye out for any changes in her in case she becomes unwell

I am a first time mum and i am a anxious person. My partner was sitting on the sofa too with me the middle sit of our 3 seater was empty that's where my little one landed i was seat on the seatee too. I have a massive phobia of spiders.

My 6 year old went over the handlebars of his bike today after I encouraged him to have a go at the hill. He has a broken arm now. These things will happen plenty of times in parenthood. Be kind to yourself. (Ds has been bought a lot of Minecraft bits as I feel so guilty!)

More importantly, where is the spider now?

I let my baby fall down the stairs. We blame that for her going to Oxford many years later.

I thoroughly recommend the friendly spider programme at London Zoo for getting rid your phobia.

A couple of years after doing it, I was putting a jumper on my toddler when an absolutely massive fucker crawled out of it and sat on his head. I kept calm, caught the spider and took it outside. Later I realised that, before, I would have screamed, run away, slammed the kitchen shut with my son inside and sat outside sobbing, not knowing how I could ever go back in. Thank God I dealt with it before then.

If you’re an “anxious person” you need to address that before your child gets older and it affects them.

(From the perspective of a taxi driver) a woman and her child get in the back perfectly normal when out if the blue she starts aggressively slapping her child on the head then dumps a bottle of water over her before checking she was OK?

From MY perspective my daughters hair was on fire and I tried to put it out with my hands before realising I had a bottle of water with me and used that instead 😅 you often don't react how you think in stressful situations I would have thought I would remember I had water and not traumatise my child by randomly slapping her but apparently not

I am concerned you have post natal depression.
If your baby was sitting on your lap how did they end up on their front on the sofa.
A 3 month old baby is not a feather weight - it would have taken some effort to lift them and throw them on their front and they would have cried from the sudden action.
Most people would have held them with one arm and brushed the spider off with the other hand.

Please consider treatment for your spider phobia.
Spiders are amazing.

Dont have postnatal depression my child was sitting on my lap being supported my the left arm. I landed on the seat on left side so it is possible to land the way he did x

How did you manage to get to post natal depression from this post?! Wow

my thoughts exactly
Sounds more like a fear of spiders and a bit of a shock.

Yep, natural reaction, I don't know. I'm terrified of spiders but not come across one with baby!

It was a spider and a bit of a shock. My little one is okay. No post natal depression. I just panicked and very extremely guilty

I scratched my baby badly on his eyebrow with my engagement ring. I felt so bad. I’ve stopped wearing it. Your baby will be fine.

People on here are weird. If a bird flew right at their face out of nowhere while they were holding their precious child, they absolutely wouldn't have the natural instinct to put their hands in front of their face or flinch in any way.
A dirty great spider appearing out of nowhere - gross. If you have a fear of them - bloody terrifying!
You did nothing wrong OP. Be sure to tell your kid about it when she's older and she can hold it over you when she wants extra pocket money or a lift somewhere hahaha

How did their hair set on fire in a taxi?!

Luckily all okay, but I think maybe some treatment for spider phobia would be a really good idea. What if there isn’t a soft landing next time? What if you’re driving a car and see a spider? I think feelings of guilt are probably alerting you that you would have preferred not to react that way so take steps to make the change so you won’t react like that in future. Don’t beat yourself up about it, it’s in the past, can’t be changed and everything is okay. But equally if you did it again and hadn’t made effort to address the issue in the meantime, I think that wouldn’t be great.

I fell almost top to bottom of the stairs with my newborn baby in my arms. We had those wooden open plan stairs that were all the rage years ago, and I was wearing unsuitable slipper/shoes. Completely my fault. He bounced out of my arms and then we both fell into a heap at the bottom! We got him checked out and he was fine. Babies are more resilient than we think.

Do you go to any toddler groups or anything similar where you can spend time with other mums?
When I had my eldest two being able to spend time with other mums helped my anxiety so much. Especially in situations like yours where I was beating myself up over something silly ( well silly in hindsight 😅)

My latest was dropping my phone on my poor 9mo dd6 while she was sleeping hard enough that it woke her up and then worrying for the rest of the night that I’d concussed her (she was totally fine and happy once she got over the rude awaking )