So tired of bedtimes

[Magik8ball]

I guess this is just to rant!

I am so tired of bedtimes.
My 2year old and 1 year old keep bouncing off each other and it takes me ages to get them to sleep.

Occasionally it wouldn't be so bad, but it's been every day for nearly 3 years.

My 2 year old never slept good since the day he was born, hes gotten better NOW, but not with the 1 year old around.

I have to rock the 1 year old when he refuses to sleep, and my back and shoulders are already so bad. My PGP didn't leave after pregnancy. I often have trouble walking and yet every night I have to do this. He's not light either. He's in the 100th percentile for height and a pretty high percentile for weight too. I'm so mentally drained. I am at my utmost limit and there is absolutely nothing I can do about it.
It's just me here.

Thank you for reading haha.

Hahahaha thank you for this, it does give me hope. Every bedtimes is so daunting now

It seems a few of you have decided to use my thread as a means to 1. Judge 2. Shame 3. Patronise 4. And push your limited experience onto others.
Please find another thread to do so and stop antagonising the good people here.

Exactly that, uncommon, but some still don't nap at 2.
My son is one of them, he doesn't need it. He is not overtired by bedtime. It's important to remember all our children are different. Mine are different from each other let alone mine and yours. It's also not like I haven't adjusted and experimented lol. He isn't the difficult one in regards to sleep, it's my 1 year old.

I really don't think any of the responses you've received judge, shame or patronise at all. People are just trying to help by solutionising and sharing ideas. You're right though, we all do have limited experiences, but no one claims to be an expert and mumsnet isn't meant to be a forum to get expert advice. People start threads on it get to feedback on their situations from a load of other mums etc., who can only bring their own limited experience to the table.

Anyways, best of luck. I really hope it all gets better for you xx

Can Dad take one for bedtime? It's so hard with two so young!

Is there another parent there at bedtime? If so, I’d put them to sleep in separate rooms (even if that means getting one to sleep in your room and transferring much later when they’re in a deep sleep.

My children were terrible sleepers but it did get better (mainly because we started letting our youngest get into our bed if he woke in the night). They both sleep ok now as older primary kids, with a big dependence on audible.

Feeding to sleep is perfectly ok @Magik8ball, it’s not something to be stressed about.

I am here now and this is how I deal with it.
1yo in a buggy with older one on the bed.
I then move buggy with my foot while “cuddling” older one with my hand. That usually works. 😅