Anybody gone for no 3 cos they're desperate for a girl?

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I have 2 ds (3 and 1), both of which have been v hard work. I would really love a daughter but am I mad to try when life is such hard work already? Is the jump from 2 to 3 even bigger than the jump from 1 t 2? Also, what are my chances of a 3rd boy? Don't think I could cope with that... Anybody any advice or experience? Any surefire ways of conceiving a girl

There are theories about how diet and douching - as well as timing and position - can change the vagina's 'environment' and make it more hospitable to either xx or xy sperm. However, whilst it might be ok to lightheartedly try to manipulate the outcome (as I admit I did in the first month when ttc 2nd dc), I knew I'd be delighted with boy or girl as long as they were well.

Its a gamble. My aunt had 7 children. The first 5 were girls and the last 2 boys. I think if she'd had a boy sooner she'd have hd less children overall IYSWIM

Hmm. Would rather like a girl, I think, not sure, don't feel complete with just two boys.
But I am afraid I wouldn't like her, I always think of myself as a little girl and I didn't feel like I was liked

I know someone who has just had her 5th boy because she keeps trying for a girl. He is 2 months old, and she is now talking about number 6!

I think you need to make sure you really want a baby rather than a girl or a boy, or you could end up very disappointed.

Yes, the emphasis for me now must be to concentrate on being happy with my lot and stop grieving for the girl I'll probably never had. If I go for a 3rd I need to be 100% sure I wouldn't mind what sex it is. Think I may need counselling to get over this! My two boys have both been very hard work so far, and I'm sure this contributes to the feeling that if they were girls life would be a lot easier. Also, I'm not a very outdoorsy/physical person, so all that running around to use up energy doesn't really do it for me. I'd much rather be sitting inside playing with barbie dolls...

Desperatelyseekingsleep, Not very helpfully, I just wanted to say that I completely empathise. I have 2 sons. When I had the 20-wk scan for my DS2, I asked to find out the sex and they said, "I think it's a girl." I burst into tears! I realised how desperately I'd wanted to have a daughter. Then my tears were interrupted when he said, "Ooops, nope, sorry. Definitely a boy."

I also hate all the sporty stuff, and boys' fascination with things like torches, insects, magnifying bloody glasses, their willies, hitting, Transeffingformers, etc.

I don't know if I have time for a 3rd (I'm 37 now), so am trying to think of myself as the Queen of the house. They all need me so much.

I have a wonderful relationship with my mother, and I'll miss not having another female around to giggle with. But I don't think girls would necessarily be easier so we should both stop moaning and instead, concentrate on turning our sons gay.

We know of someone who had 3 boys ... tried once more as 4 boys would have been ok but were hoping for a girl ... and had natural triplet sons!

I have boys of 11 and 8 and an (adopted) daughter of 3. The boys when little were much as you describe, but are really interesting creatures now and we have great conversations.

My daughter, whilst not as physical as the boys is challenging in a very different way that I think is quite typical for little girls and that is that she TALKS non-stop and expects answers the whole time. She finds it difficult to go into her own little world to play as the boys used to, because she is so curious about other people and what they're up to or what she might be missing. In some ways it's more exhausting, though it could just be that I'm a lot older this time round.

I think it's a mistake to assume that girls are easier!