Do you (secretly) have a favourite child?

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I know we're not meant to favour one, but deep-down, do you? And what is it about that child which makes you feel just that tiny bit fonder towards them than the others? And how do you hide it from the other children?

Yes
for different things one of my boys is very easy to love, smiles with ease, very giving with cuddles, the other doesn't.

Yes, secretly I do have a favourite. She is just so loving generally chilled out but bright and eager and we get on so well and are totally in sync and I never have a minute's annoyance or bother with her.

I secretly favour my eldest, because she was my firstborn and we went through a lot together, just the two of us.

I secretly favour my dd2 because after years of trying, we thought dp couldn't have kids so she was a real little miracle baby.

I secretly favour ds because he is so loving and sweet.

I secretly want another one because I long for another baby who will be my favourite when none of the others are.

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no!!!!
i love all my boys the same but they each have different characters.

eldest ds my pfb was v ill when born hes now 14 and gorgeous but has lack of confidence with girls which means no girlfriends but loads of girls as mates hes fab at football and a bit of a boffin in fact my friend shocked me she said she was going to marry him in 10 years!!!

middle ds a real character not academically gifted just middle of the road but real charmer with huge personality and with NO fear unforunately he has M.E and has periods of ill helth

our surprise ,,,,hes 7 nd a mix of his brothers v loving cuddly and funny.

I am blessed with my children 17 years ago i had no-one no parents or sibs my nanna was distant and now here I am head of a busy house of boys - and love it!!

I was only thinking of this subject yesterday and how we never mention it in real life because even with your closest friends you can't admit loving one of your children more than the others.

In answer to the question, yes I do have one of my three who I love more than the others, but try always not to act on the feelings. From the second he was born I have felt it, and it never deminished.

Have felt guilty about it over the years, but as I said I think the other 2 are unaware of it, and I would never mention it to anyone, ever.
I do treat them all equally though, it's just my little secret.

Definitely have no favourite but as ds4 is only 2 weeks old and has that lovely baby smell and soft skin I do look forward to cuddling him just a little bit more!

DD2 (3) is the one who brings out the most emotion in me, she makes me laugh every day (I mean hysterically), she's so funny, she makes me cry, she's very loving but a real monkey, very independent to the point where it exasperates me.

DD1 (5) on the other hand is the total opposite, she doesn't really make me laugh much and isn't really funny, she doesn't make me cry. She is very loving, she is doing great at school and appears bright, she does as she's told. She's very compliant and caring of her family and isn't afraid to stand up to people when others are picked on.

I love them both very much and I don't think I do favour one over the other. I have in the past but not recently I don't think.

DH blatently favours DD2 and unfortunately I think DD1 has picked up on it though she doesn't appear to mind cos she says she loves me best and that I love her best too.

NO, I love my boys equally, finding different bits of their character endearing. Sounds trite I know, but it's true.
DS1 is 4 and am realising that he's off to school soon, and he seems so young! He is kind and caring and has taken to calling me his "Princess" several times a day. He is sensitive and my heart goes out to him sometimes, esp when he is feeling insecure about a situation.
DS2 is 2 and very funny, very cute and cuddly. He's at that age when the Cuteness factor is skyhigh so very easy to love (even when he is having one of his many tantrums). He has always had a quick temper but is not a sulker.

They are both great.

i think its wrong to favour one child obviously you would love them in different ways as they are different people but not favouring one!

Chipmonkey! Congratulations!!!

my kids are so totaly different from each other, its actually amazing the vastness of the difference between them - and i love that they are all individuals. My dd now she is older is great to talk with - but when she was younger she cried all the time - i mean all the time, so even though i loved her i can't say i liked her an awful lot and i really like her now - i think thats saying something.

ds1 has always been mature, my rock and my support - always. sometimes he can be unbelievable stupid and i worry for him more now as an adult than i ever did when he was a child.

ds2 - is weird. i like weird. i like him - he is so different and he disagrees with everything i say - just cos - he is deliberatley anoying most o the time. But he is great.

just wrote a load of shit and not answered the question.

i think i really like all my kids - and thats just fabbo

No I don't. And I'm saddened to read that some parents do.

I don't think I have a favourite but I find DD2 impossibly cute and really enjoyed her babyhood, purely because I was more relaxed second time round I think and not working so spent more time with her. DD1 is bright and funny but more demanding and needy and so can wind me up easily but I think it might just be her age. Both are very loving and affectionate and so are easy children to love.

I'm pg with number three and it will be interesting to see whether DD2 stops being my baby once she is the middle child.

Yes I have a favourite but I will take my secret to the grave with me

No i don't, i love them both the same, they are both sooo different but so special in there own ways.

I love them all the same but as dd3 is only 7 months and cant actually be naughty yet i prefer her at times!
Dd1 is 6 and doesnt need me so much, dd2 is a daddy's girl and i had pnd when she was born, she is easily the hardest to like at times.

Interesting thread....

I think favourites change with mine. I am sooo close to DD1 cos she was my firstborn and we are so alike but she is too much like me so we clash all the time. But there is a bond like no other.

DD2 is so clever, quirky, odd and amusing that I can't help but think she is my favourite too. Not so needy as DD1... more insular, so harder to think of her as a favourite but because she is so clever and independent, my heart bursts with pride when I think of her!

If you have two of the same sex it is easier to answer the question of whether one of them is a favourite IYSWIM.

I think I have two favourites.. both my two DDs!

No, I dont have a favourite.

Please try not to. It is incredibly hurtful for the other chidlren to know, that they just had to be themselves, and their mother didn't love them.

No, but I am the daughter of a woman who made it clear to me whilst I was growing up that she had a favourite and it wasn't me.

Luckily we have resolved our issues and I'm not scarred by the experience but it is not a great thing to be the child who is not favoured, trust me on this. And I am absolutely certain that neither of my kids would ever have to experience that feeling.

no, no i really don't.

Don't have a favourite and love them both the same. But when DD1(3 years) is having one of her off days and just cries and moans all the time, I do prefer being around my happy smiley dd2 (8 months)

No! to my eternal relief. They are like sun and moon, I couldn't possibly prefer one to the other.

Which one is that then Batters