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2 year old blood in nappy & pain

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:18

Hi all, long time lurker (did have an account that I deleted last year as got a bit addicted to posting!)

please can someone share some advice

my daughter came back from the childminder and at bath time we found blood in her nappy and her vagina looks sore and has a cut.

she’s said she’s sore in the bath and cried.

I’ve tried to ask her how it happened and she got shy and she mentioned ‘I was hitting (childminder name).

I know kids say things but I’m really nervous about this and wondered if there was any way I could word it to try get her to explain how it happened.

childminder is lovely and had no issues for years so don’t want to jump to conclusions but unsure why she didn’t mention how sore she was.

also sorry for TMI but the soreness is not on the outside bits (if that makes sense). Anything this could be that’s nothing untoward?

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MerryGrimaceShake · 04/04/2025 19:19

Hospital and police now. This sounds like an issue way out of the remit of most Mumsnetters.

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:19

P.s I was going to ring ncpcc but they’re closed

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AyeDeadOn · 04/04/2025 19:20

I really think you need to take her to the doctor. Phone your out of hours and tell them all this.

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Lovegame · 04/04/2025 19:21

MerryGrimaceShake · 04/04/2025 19:19

Hospital and police now. This sounds like an issue way out of the remit of most Mumsnetters.

I agree. You can also call social service. Search for the name of your local council and children social services. There will always be a social worker on duty.

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:22

Also just to add Partner thinks I was ridiculous to even look at nspcc website. I can’t tell you how lovely the childminder is so I’m just nervous about over reacting if there’s a reasonable explanation for this. Should I message the childminder? She sent me lots of photos today and said how happy she was today.

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Lovegame · 04/04/2025 19:25

You’re not over reacting.

She has an unexplained cut on her vagina/vulva. You need to seek professional advice.

Bellatrixxx · 04/04/2025 19:27

This is really sad and unsettling to read. I think my first port of call would be to call the childminder and say exactly what you’ve said here - her reaction or response may give you a clear steer. What do you have to lose, even if you contact social services straight after.
Ive just put my 2 year old daughter to bed, and I’m not one to be reactive but I’m honestly not sure where my head would be if I was in your shoes……how would you get a cut inside of the vagina as a toddler??

Assssofspades · 04/04/2025 19:30

Local council website will usually have the number of the duty social worker, I'd start there.

AyeDeadOn · 04/04/2025 19:31

Please don't contact the childminder. Please get your child seen by a medical professional ASAP. You owe it to your child not to ignore this and stick your head in the sand.

supercatlady · 04/04/2025 19:32

I really wouldn’t contactchildminder til you’ve taken some professional advice. Keep the nappy.
hopefully it’s nothing but better to be safe

1AnotherOne · 04/04/2025 19:32

It could be as simple as the cm scratching her with a nail whilst changing but also something more serious. As an ex a&e nurse please take her to your local paed a&e - they are well equipped to deal with this.

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:32

Thank you for the replies. I’ve shown my partner the thread and he thinks she’s just scratched herself but she’s not one to usually have her hands down her pants.

my head is all over because I don’t want to accuse someone of something they’ve not done.

partner says she’s been her usually happy self but I don’t know if that means anything?

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Ihavesomeideas · 04/04/2025 19:33

Please take her to a Dr. asap .Don't wait for GP appt. I don't think I'd ask / tell childminder anything until Dr.has seen her. Have all the facts before you go. Anyone else working with childminder yesterday?

Silvertulips · 04/04/2025 19:33

If it was the child minder who noticed she wouldn’t blink at reporting you. Better safe than sorry.

1AnotherOne · 04/04/2025 19:34

The childminder may well have done nothing wrong but there are other children in her care or family in her home who perhaps might’ve and you need to rule that out.

AyeDeadOn · 04/04/2025 19:34

Apart from all the obvious reasons why you need to take her to see a doctor, if the cut in her vagina scars and is picked up in a future medical examination you may be seen as having not acted in your daughter's best interests and exposed her to unacceptable risk.

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:34

@Ihavesomeideas the childminder lives alone and had no other children there today,

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:35

@Silvertulips this is very true thank you!

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Bellatrixxx · 04/04/2025 19:35

Eeeek sorry my advice to call the childminder was perhaps not right!

but I have to say unless your daughters fingernails are jagged and very very long, I can’t really imagine a situation where my daughter could reach into her nappy and break skin with her nails?

Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 04/04/2025 19:36

Your childminder may be lovely. But i assume she cares for other children and has them in the house or other adults? She may be unaware. It may be worth asking the childminder but not give too many details. Maybe somethinf like noticed theres blood in her nappy, do you know if she did anything today, or she has a cut (dont say where) any idea how she did it she says its sore. See her response.

Have you had a look to see what kind of cut it is or scratch. DD has scratched herself before with her own nails, although not on her vulva. But i wouldn't put it past her. You need to see how bad it is as it an area for infection and soreness if its deep or unusual. I would call 111 for advice. Even if they don't see her its logged.

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:36

Thanks all, partner is starting to not treat this as me over reacting. I’ll give social services a call, I just feel bad not giving childminder the chance to explain as she’s had her since a baby and no other issues at all, she adores going there

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CaramelVanilla · 04/04/2025 19:37

Why haven't you taken her to hospital/ doctors/ police yet???

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:38

@Antsinmypantsneedtodance its a small cut just near the opening and a lot of soreness around it.

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HallidayJones6779 · 04/04/2025 19:40

I think I'd start with a children's A&E. They can do all the follows ups to social services etc with your blessing. That way, if the childminder is totally innocent - which let's hope they are and there is a reasonable explanation - you can just say that you took her to a&e because she was sore and you found blood and THEY did the follow ups with SS. Meanwhile, you've done the right thing by your child.

Laszlomydarling · 04/04/2025 19:43

Forget social services. Just ring the police. It's ridiculous that you haven't done so already.

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