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2 year old blood in nappy & pain

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:18

Hi all, long time lurker (did have an account that I deleted last year as got a bit addicted to posting!)

please can someone share some advice

my daughter came back from the childminder and at bath time we found blood in her nappy and her vagina looks sore and has a cut.

she’s said she’s sore in the bath and cried.

I’ve tried to ask her how it happened and she got shy and she mentioned ‘I was hitting (childminder name).

I know kids say things but I’m really nervous about this and wondered if there was any way I could word it to try get her to explain how it happened.

childminder is lovely and had no issues for years so don’t want to jump to conclusions but unsure why she didn’t mention how sore she was.

also sorry for TMI but the soreness is not on the outside bits (if that makes sense). Anything this could be that’s nothing untoward?

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HallidayJones6779 · 04/04/2025 19:40

I think I'd start with a children's A&E. They can do all the follows ups to social services etc with your blessing. That way, if the childminder is totally innocent - which let's hope they are and there is a reasonable explanation - you can just say that you took her to a&e because she was sore and you found blood and THEY did the follow ups with SS. Meanwhile, you've done the right thing by your child.

This poster has nailed it. You need to take her to A&E. They’ll advise and make all the necessary referrals. Keep the nappy and don’t delay (I’m a nurse for what it’s worth)

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ThatLilacWriter · 04/04/2025 19:43

@HallidayJones6779 thank you this is really helpful! We’ll do this now.

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Bellatrixxx · 04/04/2025 19:52

Let us know how it goes. Children’s A&E sounds like the best option (why would she just phone the police…it’s about making sure her daughter is okay first and foremost, the police can’t help with that). It’s daunting to phone SS so it would be better for them to handle it. Best of luck OP

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Whooowhooohoo · 04/04/2025 19:53

Please go to A&E …. First and foremost this is an issue that requires expert medical attention.

SheridansPortSalut · 04/04/2025 19:53

"he thinks she’s just scratched herself"

I have never heard of anyone ever scratching and cutting their vagina. That is not a thing.

A&E.

Bellatrixxx · 04/04/2025 19:53

Hopefully you don’t have to wait for hours

Whooowhooohoo · 04/04/2025 19:55

SheridansPortSalut · 04/04/2025 19:53

"he thinks she’s just scratched herself"

I have never heard of anyone ever scratching and cutting their vagina. That is not a thing.

A&E.

If she for some reason has thrush .. unusual but not impossible, then she would scratch but she would also tell you that it hurts /itches she would need to be very uncomfortable to scratch til bleeds.
She needs see Dr.

Givemethesun · 04/04/2025 20:13

I think if the childminder accidentally scratched dc with her nail while changing her for example she’d have said?

TiredmumwithMS · 04/04/2025 20:14

A and E! They will follow up with checks. Hopefully you are there now! X

CatherineCawoodsbestie · 04/04/2025 20:14

ex Child care Social Services intake manager here. I would ring EDT - emergency duty SW team. Number will be on council website. They should make arrangements for your daughter to be seen by a paediatric doctor , in our area it would be an on call paediatrician on the children’s ward. They should also liaise with police on your behalf - they would have a strategy discussion and health, SW and police would work together.

I hope it is nothing and your DD is ok - but it needs to be investigated.

CatherineCawoodsbestie · 04/04/2025 20:15

And not A and E etc - you may end up dealing with a v junior doctor who has no training in this kind of area.

Scutterbug · 04/04/2025 20:15

Oh goodness. Hope you get to the bottom of it.

Fullcircle90 · 04/04/2025 20:34

CatherineCawoodsbestie · 04/04/2025 20:15

And not A and E etc - you may end up dealing with a v junior doctor who has no training in this kind of area.

Not true. A junior doctor would know how to respond to a potential safeguarding situation. Even if that means them seeking further advice from a more senior clinician

CatherineCawoodsbestie · 04/04/2025 21:26

Fullcircle90 · 04/04/2025 20:34

Not true. A junior doctor would know how to respond to a potential safeguarding situation. Even if that means them seeking further advice from a more senior clinician

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I take your point and I apologise - I didn’t mean to cause any offence. 🙂 I wouldn’t want the responsibility and stress that all A and E staff face constantly that’s for sure.

Fullcircle90 · 04/04/2025 22:19

How are you OP? Has she been seen?

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