Constant Crying/Whining

[MaleficentQueen]

Does anyone else’s 5 month old just constantly cry all the time, to the point where it’s driving them mad?

No matter what I do she just always cries all bloody day and it’s driving me up the wall. I change her, I feed her, I try to get her to nap, I try to entertain her and nothing works. It’s driving me insane. I just want it to stop.

Can someone please help me?

Jesus talk about jumping to major conclusions @MaleficentQueen

I’m not jumping to conclusions. I’m not saying she definitely is, I’m just saying that because I’m autistic, I worry she could end up like me. It’s normal to be anxious about your children inheriting issues like that, especially since Autism is genetic. Anxiety comes with my Autism, unfortunately.

Teething? The teething ramped up a lot for DS at 5 months and I felt like my happy smiley baby was just gone. It felt like weeks passed and all he had done was whinge. Then got a break from it and he was back to his usual self. However it's back again at 7 months now. He still doesn't have even one tooth in his head and I do think he's suffering particularly bad with teething pain. The gels stopped cutting it and needed to give Calpol or Nurofen when it got really bad. Just a thought that might be what's happening with your LO. Solidarity, it's a hard stage. But it will pass.

She’s been a little better today, than she has been for the last few days. But I’ll definitely keep an eye on her teething wise. Maybe the gel just doesn’t work for her. Thank you for the help.

I completely understand how isolating it is and I was very depressed at the time. I’m neurodiverse and found the whinging crying so overwhelming and over stimulating I couldn’t focus on anything else. If it’s teeth I really recommend nurofen and anbesol these were only things that touched the pain for my little one and storing teethers in the fridge.
I also just wanted to say my baby girl was on and off mostly miserable the first year of her life as she was colic and then got back to back teeth very early on… but she’s 2.5 yo now and the happiest secure toddler ever, I get soo many comments from people about her contagious smile, you’d never think she was a miserable baby bless her.
I’m sure you’re doing your absolute best and things will get better just hang on in there and accept support where you can.

I think it's just that DC really vary in terms of how much they suffer with it. DS (despite being generally whiny) popped his teeth out with barely a whimper whereas poor DD was red cheeks and drool for weeks.

I have an 11 month old and for the first 4 months of her life all she did was cry and scream due to severe reflux. It drove me insane and I had severe pnd, I am also ND too. 5 months was definitely teething! We found anbesol liquid (not the gel) worked pretty well. Once they come out the other side of these wee phases it calms down again for a wee while! X

I’m sorry that must be hard. I was wondering if you belong to any mother and baby groups? They can be a good support. I would also speak to my GP or health visitor. These stages don’t last for ever though … sending you a big hug.

My little one was the exact same, you’re not alone.

I too felt like banging my head against a wall with the constant winging, was convinced he had something seriously wrong with him and that I was a terrible mum as I couldn’t make him happy. Everyone else’s babies seemed so happy and easy and mine just whined all day long no matter what!

turns out, he just hated being a tiny baby! Once he could sit properly, move about and crawl he was a different child. I think he was just so bored and frustrated no matter how much I tried to stimulate his brain, he likes to be quite independent.

honestly, try and make some time for yourself when your partner can take over and just sit in silence. I also bought some loop earplugs that helped soften the constant noise.

All babies are different so please don’t think you’re doing anything wrong, if it makes you feel any better, I remember being at the end of my tether and crying to the GP saying I was worried he may be autistic and the GP genuinely laughed at me and reassured me things would get better, which they do!

Use the teething powder (I forgot the name). The gel does nothing.

My first thought was teething. Unfortunately thats baby’s. Just when you think it’s all going well and you have it sussed they swing another way.

Babies are hard. It is really hard. Try to also remember that stressed parents can make for stressed babies so can you do something together you would enjoy? Swimming?

Thank you all for the advice and tips.
I’ll deffo look at the powder people have mentioned, and the anbesol. I might also look into the loop earplugs, as I have heard of them, but don’t own any. Might help me with the overstimulation!

Ashton & Parsons teething powder is your friend!! We were never without it, and it worked like magic within seconds of giving it to my daughter. Solidarity though as I’ve been in your shoes and it was hell on earth and every hour seemed like a day! You ARE a great mum, the fact you worry about this shows me you are. Hold on in there.. it will pass

Oh and another tip my health visitor gave me was to pop some headphones on and carry on soothing/singing/cuddling whatever it is to comfort your daughter. She won’t know any different and will still know you are right there. Just drowning out the noise takes the edge off and might be all you need to get through that episode.

My daughter really struggles with teething, she cries and cries and cries! The only thing I found that worked was cycling Nurofen and Calpol so she always had pain relief. She is cutting her molars currently and it’s dreadful!!

Thanks so much guys, you’ve all been so kind, and helpful.

It's so hard being a mum, especially when it’s your first and you have no idea what you’re doing.

Teetha!

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Yes the powder too! And loops is a good idea, I have a pair but also hate things in my ears so haven't properly given them a go ... I end up humming to myself 🤣🤣🤣 also feel free to pm if you need a rant / chat it's hard going! X

Thank you!

My daughter was like this from 3 weeks by 4 months she cried for 16-20h a day and spent 23h a day in my arms. At 17 weeks she was diagnosed with severe silent reflux and multiple food allergies. I ended up with severe pnd and psychosis as a result

Oh my gosh. I’m so sorry to hear that.
I hope you are okay now.

Yes thanks, she's 4 now, still has reflux and allergies but we all cope so much better!

Glad to hear things are better ❤️

Ditto. My son cried and whined most of the day every day from about 5 months to 2 years old - then, pretty much overnight, became a delightful toddler, and is now a laid back 11 year old! We even took him to Great Ormond Street but they could find nothing wrong with him, it was just "behavioural".
I think he got overwhelmed really quickly. He was always a great sleeper, so that helped us get through. It felt like the world was a bit too much for him, but then he grew into it.

It’s another point being raised. Maybe your baby is overstimulated? Sometimes it’s too many toys and sounds and jumper and scenery etc. In Europe in some countries they say it’s too many prickles. It doesn’t mean any issue with your baby just that they don’t like all of the sights, sounds and smells…

Of course what others have said is valid too but trying to add another option….

Thank you.
It could be a possibility.
I get overstimulated myself at times, so imagine it’s even worse for a baby.