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Sleeps 11pm to 11am - want to change

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AlienLady · 20/02/2025 10:58

My 3 month old sleeps 11pm to 11am - great but I feel like this is too late.
Her last feed is 11pm.
It’s probably because she stays downstairs with us whilst we watch TV as per SIDS rules but ends up treating her sleep after 8pm as a nap.
I am still so exhausted post partum, so the lie in is amazing but I feel like this shouldn’t be her routine.
Will it sort itself out? If not, how do I change it?
Do I need to wake up at 8am and wake her up too? And start the day from there?
Will the 4 month regression sort it out?

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SquashedGrape1 · 20/02/2025 11:10

Honestly at 3 months I would count your blessings and leave as is. It might all change at 4 months, and if not then you could start trying to change it at 6 months when you can put her to bed upstairs with a monitor.

Dal8257 · 20/02/2025 11:14

It’s amazing they sleep 11-11 so on that basis I wouldn’t do anything that might change that for now. Baby sleep changes all the time so you may find that as they drop a nap they’ll go to sleep earlier or the 4 month regression hits and they do something different altogether.

mindutopia · 20/02/2025 11:23

If you’re tired, why not just all go to bed earlier? You can be in the same room, just make it the bedroom so you get to sleep too. I wouldn’t be staying up watching tv if I needed sleep. It’s very normal for them to wake around 10/11pm for a feed. So put her to bed and then wake up at 11pm, feed her and then back to bed.

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Givemethesun · 20/02/2025 11:28

I would not change that at 3 months! My 3 month baby was waking up every 45 minutes day and night 😅 plenty of time to bring bedtime forward and it may happen naturally.

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AlienLady · 21/02/2025 20:02

Thank you for your replies.
i just don’t like the fact her first feed is at 11am and her last feed is at 11pm. It’s not even a dream feed, it’s a proper feed.
Do I give her a feed at 8am? She will most likely sleep through it straight after.

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Notgivenuphope · 21/02/2025 20:03

12 hours uninterrupted sleep? with a 3 month old.

Do NOTHING OP. Just enjoy it!

Ilikepianos · 21/02/2025 20:05

Wow, I wouldn't change that. Mine slept 8pm-6am waking 4 times

namechangeGOT · 21/02/2025 20:07

Mine did this.

I did nothing!

RobinHeartella · 21/02/2025 20:09

Don't change it, just rest while you can. It'll all change between 4 and 6 months anyway.

My first did this. Unfortunately my second had to wake up when my eldest had to get up for school etc. We are all still sleep deprived a year on

LavenderBlue19 · 21/02/2025 20:11

When they're a little older babies usually have a morning nap quite soon after waking. So she's really just skipping that morning nap and sleeping through, which is fine at three months!

Restless evening (dozing on your shoulder or in the carrycot), feed at about 11pm and then sleep is entirely normal and quite honestly, the dream. So long as she's getting enough milk and it doesn't make your life very difficult I wouldn't change anything.

user593 · 21/02/2025 20:15

My son did this when he was small. We slowly brought his bed time forward and by 3 he was going down by 7pm. He’s 4 now and still sleeps a full 12 hours (longer, if we let him). Personally, I wouldn’t worry about it and enjoy the lay ins!

Completelyjo · 21/02/2025 20:17

I mean I don’t really understand your issue? 11pm isn’t exactly late to stay up if the baby is then sleeping 12 hours and you don’t need to feed until 11am.
An earlier routine is totally arbitrary for a 3 month old unless you need them to slot into the routine of older children.

GanderingGoose · 21/02/2025 20:17

It might just sort itself out naturally. I had one who slept through 11-9.30 from 6 weeks until 7 months when she moved into her own room. It then naturally started moving earlier as I started to get her up earlier in readiness for nursery. Dropping naps as she got older also helped. She's still a night owl now at 21 months and will go to bed between 8.00 and 9 and sleep through most nights till 7.30.

I'd say enjoy having one of those rare babies who sleeps. It was nothing I did that made her this way. She did become a bit of a pickle around 15 months though - waking up at 1am for upto 3 hours - until we sleep trained at 18 months.

Redfred00 · 21/02/2025 20:34

Enjoy it while you can. As long as DC is gaining weight and staying in her percentile. My DC woke every 3 hours at that age.

Jk987 · 21/02/2025 20:34

Notgivenuphope · 21/02/2025 20:03

12 hours uninterrupted sleep? with a 3 month old.

Do NOTHING OP. Just enjoy it!

This.

It might all change at 4 months. Don't worry about doing anything remotely normal when you're in the newborn bubble.

sunshine237 · 21/02/2025 20:36

Givemethesun · 20/02/2025 11:28

I would not change that at 3 months! My 3 month baby was waking up every 45 minutes day and night 😅 plenty of time to bring bedtime forward and it may happen naturally.

Same!

BeSharpBee · 21/02/2025 20:37

If she's gaining weight and content why fuck with it?

She'll soon settle into a 'normal' routine as she gets older.

ButterCrackers · 21/02/2025 20:42

If you’re at a loose end in the mornings just get your baby up and pop them in the car seat for the car and sling for at home. You could get all your tasks done, go out for a walk, meet up with other parents.

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AlienLady · 21/02/2025 20:43

She is gaining weight etc.
I am surprised by the responses lol.
I thought 11am was so late to start the day!
I do like to be awake and start the day at 8am but because she doesn’t wake up until 11am I end up waking up at 10am as I am still so exhausted for some reason. So maybe I think it’s abnormal for me to be so tired after such a good sleep?
My first DS always woke up at 7-8am with 2 feeds until 10 months so I am not used to this. (He is now 6 and my husband sorts him out in the morning everyday as he WFH).
I am also thinking of when she is weaning and breakfast time etc but maybe I am jumping the gun abit.

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AlienLady · 21/02/2025 20:43

namechangeGOT · 21/02/2025 20:07

Mine did this.

I did nothing!

When did your child start waking earlier?

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MikeRafone · 21/02/2025 20:46

Wake baby up at 10.30 and follow the same routine for a few days/3 then so the same again and wake at 10am, then same again backwards to 9.30 and 9pm but also moving feeds as this will be part of their rhythm.

SouthLondonMum22 · 21/02/2025 20:47

I always woke mine at 7 if they weren't awake by then with the aim to have them in bed by 7 so they would sleep 7-7.

You could wake baby up at 8 if you want them up by then with the aim to have them in bed by 8. Or gradually reduce bedtime from 11 to 10, 9 and then 8.

Sayshesheshe · 21/02/2025 20:50

Your baby sleeps for 12 hours without waking once? I would cherish that 11am wake up with my entire being as the mother of a 4 month old who has never slept more than 4 hours unbroken.

Emotionalsupporthamster · 21/02/2025 20:51

You have a sleeper. DO NOT CHANGE A THING!!

It’ll all go to hell at some point anyway no matter what you do so just enjoy the sleep for now and don’t worry about timings.

namechangeGOT · 21/02/2025 20:53

When did your child start waking earlier?

@AlienLady

At about a 10 months though more by design! I knew I was going back to work when he turned 1, so I started with a 'routine' then. Bath, milk, cuddle and bed at about 8pm. He would sleep til about 9 at that stage and by the time I went back to work I was having to wake him up at about 7 to be able to drop him off at my mums/MiLs for 8.30. He just was a sleeper and he always has been! We never had any 'regressions' in terms of sleep anyway. I am aware I was very very lucky!

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