Sleeps 11pm to 11am - want to change

[AlienLady]

My 3 month old sleeps 11pm to 11am - great but I feel like this is too late.
Her last feed is 11pm.
It’s probably because she stays downstairs with us whilst we watch TV as per SIDS rules but ends up treating her sleep after 8pm as a nap.
I am still so exhausted post partum, so the lie in is amazing but I feel like this shouldn’t be her routine.
Will it sort itself out? If not, how do I change it?
Do I need to wake up at 8am and wake her up too? And start the day from there?
Will the 4 month regression sort it out?

I would love it if my 7 month old did this - even if only for one night! If baby seems happy and is getting enough milk, gaining weight etc I'd make the most of the opportunity to rest as it will all change soon especially when they start teething. Mine is currently waking up multiple times a night to practice his new rolling skills 🥴🥴

For everyone who says they would love this…even starting the day at 11am? Most of the day is gone. By time she has fed and changed, and myself too, it’s 1pm!

It wouldn't bother me if baby slept that late. I'd get up at my normal time and enjoy having a bit of time to myself. A shower in peace. Sort some washing. Make a nice breakfast. Drink my tea while it's hot. These are luxuries my 3 kids never afford me 🤣

Do other things! Get yourself up at 9 or whatever, have a bit of me time, any chores you need to do etc and you've got the rest of the day when they wake up to chill/look after baby.

In some ways you have hit the baby lottery here, you just don't realise it.

You can go places in the evening.
You can go out for dinner (baby in pushchair or sling).
You can go out and see friends

You can actually have a social life, and then sleep it off the next day!

(I did similar with my first though she'd sleep on me when it in the evening).

The time will come soon enough when you'll be tied to the house in the evenings, your baby may well start waking at night again (happened for both of mine) and you are forced up at 6 am after a disrupted night to face the day.

I know it feels like everything had been shifted, but I'd personally make the most of it. You have a freedom in parenting that you won't get for many years.

It won’t last so just enjoy it!

Ok, you've got an older child. Your social life is probably screwed anyway, so staying up late isn't it much benefit to you.

I still wouldn't change it though. My 5 and 7 year olds don't sleep as well as your tiny baby, and one woke me hourly from 6-18m. Enjoy the sleep.

So what? Just embrace the sleep. It won’t last forever.

That's amazing 11pm feeds are normal, and an 11-11 sleep, take the win and stop being fussy

Why don’t you like it?! Aren’t you feeding on demand at 3 months anyway? She’s practically a newborn. Don’t start stressing about weaning etc when you’re nowhere near there yet, there’s no need. Just sleep while you can, get up earlier if you really want to but I’d stay in bed!

So an update:
my husband decided he wanted an early night. Fed baby at 8pm whilst still asleep. Took her upstairs, changed her nappy and she woke up. Put her in her sleeping bag and put her in her crib with white noise whilst I quickly made a cup of tea - so I can watch abit of tv in bed. She was whining but not crying. Came upstairs and she’s fallen asleep herself in the crib. Shocked! (And probably a fluke). Maybe I’ve been keeping her up when downstairs.
I will still give her a 11pm feed. Let’s see what time she wakes up tomorrow…