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Felt judged today

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Allthesweets · 17/02/2025 20:15

Hi all,

My 2.5 yr old has just started announcing everything as ‘mine’ and even snatching toys from other kids in playgroups. I always make sure to say no if he snatches anything and am trying very hard to model sharing and ‘taking turns’. Sometimes he gets it but others he doesn’t and even pushes the other kid which I do not tolerate. I am trying really hard and am hoping he’ll grow out of it soon, but obviously he’s only 2 so I am hoping other parents understand. I am very understanding when another child takes something from him or won’t also share.

Today, he a little girl tried to take his beloved whale which he adores and he said no, mine and went to snatch it back. I checked him straight away and said no. The parent made a remark with a aggy tone like looks like you have some learning to do don’t you, which I felt was a bit off and the continued to be off with me.

I feel as though I’m doing everything I can considering he’s 2 and to be off in tone and aggy was a bit uncalled for. Has anyone else had this?

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LittleGreenDragons · 18/02/2025 11:29

ThatLemonMember · 18/02/2025 09:05

I wouldn’t worry overly much but we played “switch!” a lot with our which seemed to work more than ‘sharing’ as she saw it as fun and understood the concept of others not wanting to play the same again instead of not wanting to share etc.

Now if she wants what another child has, she will take another toy over with her and ask to “switch”. Has stopped her snatching too which leads to less judgment from other (rude!) parents 😂

This has never crossed my mind. I love the idea of a toddler offering another toy in exchange for the one they want and will try to do this with any future grandkids. However, how did you manage it when the switch was refused? Did your toddler keep bringing more and more toys or go and find something else for themselves?

DoorToNowhere · 18/02/2025 11:36

Sadly as a parent I think you just have to get used to people judging you. Everyone else thinks they know it all and are doing things the right way.

I remember in the supermarket one day a lady looked in my trolley and told me off for buying prepared baby food. She told me I should only be doing freshly cooked meals for my dd (aboit 14 months). I told her that was lovely and generally did try to, but that that was very tricky to do on a long haul flight!

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