School

[Mummyof4children]

Hey all so i wanna ask something that someone may be able to answer so I took my children to school today I have 3 in mainstream and 1 in a special school so grandma on dads side takes the 3 to mainstream and I take my special needs daughter to her school as they start near the same time so I can't take them all in so the mainstream headteacher stopped me and said oh hi we don't see you much now are you ok I reply yes I'm ok she then goes on to say are you working now I said no she says why don't we see you bringing and taking the kids home I said because my daughter in the special school starts at 8:40am and my others start at 8:50am I can't be in 2 places at once it's like she don't like gran taking them in or picking them up what should I do ?

Try punctuation?

You don't need to do anything. The headteacher was simply trying to make sure all is ok and no help needed. That's a good thing.

Please don't comment if you cannot help I am dyslexic

Nothing. You should nothing. I think you’re thinking about this too much.

It's just sounds like small talk.
Don't give it any thought.
🙂

It's not the first time she has stopped me tho there the ones who moved her to this special school so they know the times of pick up and drop off are so close gran needs to help there coming in and getting picked up on time there never late so I don't see the issue with gran taking them

As long as Gran is on the official pick up list then there isn't any issue at all.
As I said....it was probably just polite small talk.

The head teacher was probably making sure everything was OK for the children at home. For all she knows you've been in hospital, left to join the circus, or had to care for an ailing relative. She's just doing her job to make sure her students don't have any difficulties that the school should be aware of.

TBH it doesn't matter what she thinks about the DC's grandmother dropping them off, as you posted, you can't be in two places at once so there is nothing you can do.

There is no issue. Unless gran is delivering them late or causing issues at drop off/pick up I wouldn’t give it a lick of thought.

This was my thought when the headteacher come to me what is gran doing that she don't like I'm gunna take them alll in and pick them all up and then maybe she can see why I ask for grans help

If the head was involved in getting a special school place for your child, it's likely that this was just small talk, and I wouldn't worry.

It's not the first time she has stopped

What has she said to you in the past when she's stopped you?

You can't expect headteachers to remember the start times of all the different schools that their pupil's siblings may be attending.

Are there other things going on or have gone on in the past that is making you over worry (eg, do you have or have had social services involvement)?

No need to be passive agressive. The head teacher is just checking to make sure you and the kids are OK. They’re just doing their job.

Yea she was the one who brought me into her office and told me they can no longer meet my daughters needs which is fair enough at least there honest and said we will be looking at probably a special school so my daughter got her place at one last year September

There really no need to do that, and stress yourself and the kids out. You're making a mountain out of a molehill and there's no need to 'prove' anything to her.

If you want to do anything at all, next time you see her, calmly and politely ask if everything's okay with grandma doing drop offs and pick ups, as you've been wondering why she asked

Yea I will do that when I see her it's bugging me I'm a worrier and I worry to much when I don't need to

The headteacher was probably just making small talk and checking everything was OK.

If it is something you would be interested in, have you looked at transport for your DC in SS?

Yea I may have to look into that might make my life easier

Why is Mumsnet like this? 🙄

If it’s a small school the head probably just wanted to check in because she values parental relationships.

No it's not a small school it's a big school I used to take my children to and from school every day but since my daughter started special school I can't make it to the mainstream on time or they will be late

If gran is happy to help I think it’s lovely you can take dd to school.

i think it is just Ht being interested and forgetful

Its possible that she's checking so that she can signpost you to transport for your daughter. Perhaps your other 3 are misbehaving for gran and they are concerned. Just calmly ask if there's any concerns and stop over thinking

Yea she's more then happy to help I asked her if she was sure as I'm guessing she wants her own time as well as seeing her grandchildren we had a massive conversation about it before my daughter started at her special school and she said you can be in 2 places at once let me help you so I get her a gift every month to say thank you so she feels appreciated

It's not the first time she's spoken to me about this I've told her the situation

Nothing you need to do, it sounds just like chit chat. You're way over thinking the situation.