I am overstimulated

[MoonDustInYourHair]

Mum of a 4yr old

I work FT

Husbanf works long hours

Good family support

I am SO OVERSTIMULATED sometimes

My ears throb sometimes and every little noise makes me cringe or wince. If she isnt using an indoor voice or feeling VERY chatty sometimes my actual ears hurt!!

I cant even hear the tv for kids toys sometimes I just give up.

I adore my child I really do ..... but some nights if she sleeps next to me she is literally ONTOP of me. I enjoy sleeping with her sometimes but some nights I really need sleep without a foot up my nose.

I am under so much pressure to get her to classes/the park/ keep myself fit/ shopping/cooking/ eat 5 a day/ get her to eat well... and the rest!

Even as I type a kids toy is blasting and I could CRY

I had my head in my hands last night. I have had my fingers in my ears already today.

My house is nicely lit and calm in that respect.

Ive made us a nice pot of soup today and done some cleaning.

Does anyonelse feel like this sometimes? Any tips?

I adore her more than I could ever put in words but WOW its alot sometimes!!! There are days I could listen to her chat all day and i love to lie with her in bed and just take her in!!

The tears are coming now!!

Hormones may play a part. I am late 30s and my PMS is worsening! Seems to be worse around ovulation!!

I am a very fortunate person I have to say. I have a good job that I love and a nice home.

Good friends, healthy..... x

Oh I feel for you! Yes I'm the same. Didn't get overstimulated at all pre-DS!

Don't know if it'll work with your little one, but I taught DS from about 3 to go upstairs and play by himself until an alarm went off (I'd set it for 10 mins) ~ phrased it as an adventure and a way to be kind to mummy so she could have a little rest.

am under so much pressure to get her to classes/the park/ keep myself fit/ shopping/cooking/ eat 5 a day/ get her to eat well... and the rest

Well the obvious answer seems to be to stop doing so much. Why does she need classes? Where's her dad in all this? Who is putting the pressure on you to be supermum?

I feel so guilty she accidentally kicked something there and my whole body shuddered!!!!!

Its just been a heavy weekend I think with some added hormones!

Thanks for your understanding even someone who understands helps!!!

She has a toy room but as kids do.... drag everything in to the living room ha x

Yes, I get this too. The constant cringing and wincing at loud or unexpected noises. Or when they are shout-talking too close to my face.

Sorry, I don't know the answer. It's horrible and I don't know why it is spoken about more.

I feel pressure in general.

I stopped a class months ago but pressure to start up again.

I was planning one class a week to dance.

Dad works alot of long hours . It can be lonely! X

Yep, totally get you. I’ve realised the kids voices are particularly bad in the kitchen and bathroom where there’s no soft furnishings. The noise just seems louder as there’s nothing to absorb it and it just bounces off everything and reverberates! If I’ve had a bad night with the baby and I come downstairs for breakfast and she’s being loud I can’t cope. I feel awful cos she’s not doing anything wrong but I just can’t cope at all. I’m debating some of those loop ear plugs but they’re so expensive.

Also the constant requests to play. I swear my parents never played with us except board games. Never imaginative play, Lego etc. I just want to sit and be quiet!

I have no solutions, but solidarity!

Great name @mallorytowers8282 !!

I hope you are ok... (glad its not just me if that makes sense!)

X

Loop earplugs. Game changer.

Kids 2 and 4. Work ft. Excellent DH and dad also works ft. Limited family support.

V overstimulated 90% of the time.

I feel you

@modgepodge solidarity much welcomed!

I have a friend who used to feel like an awful mum as she just wanted to sit for 5 mins without having to play or dance!!

Its like every time you sit someone wants something! yoghurt, another, a drink, something else, then mummy taste it!

God love them they arent doing a thing wrong and we love them BEYOND MEASURE ..... x

@oustedbymymate I will look these up as I did debate getting my silicone ones out!

Turned the TV off its just stressing me more! X

The beauty of loops is that you can still hear. They just take the edge off. I've got an 'engage' pair. It's a free 30 day trial too

Also some boundaries around your personal space.

Ditch over noisy toys, borrow children for play dates.

Here to second the recommendation for loop earplugs. enough to take the edge of the noise but still allow you to hear.

In the short term google vagus nerve relaxation. I find some of the exercises helpful when I get over stimulated! Also have an Epsom salts bath.

Earplugs a good idea.

I get like this which is why we have absolutely zero toys with batteries that make stupid noises. There's just no need for them and he plays brilliantly with all the other toys he has. Kids make enough noise without adding more to the mix.

We also done run ourselves ragged going to classes. He's only 3, and 4 is still so young too. No need for too many classes.

I find the best thing for bouncy noisy kids is to be out in nature for most of the day. It grounds them like no organised class can. They are less irritating when they're outdoors

Currently on loop earplug website xx

Then poor husband comes in from work and feels chatty and i am GRUMPY cos I am DONE talking!

I am talky at work too!

Yeah, get the Loop earplugs.

My DC love gaming videos on YouTube Kids and they are so LOUD AND RELENTLESS they make me want to claw my skin off. I love them but AARGH.

I agree @MoonDustInYourHair my son is 5 with some additional needs, he is awesome but very full on, always wants to be with/attached to me, always asking questions (very repetitively bless him!) doesn't sleep through the night.

I used to love gigs but actually now I kind of hate the noise, the crowds, the STANDING 🤣

I've basically made my life as easy as possible. Me and DH both work part time/flexible/hybrid jobs, ds doesn't do classes after school (he hates them anyway, especially "busy" things) we do parks, castles, zoo with an annual pass etc but also weekends just doing the shop, popping to the playground, cleaning the house, baking and cooking. We also get shopping delivered in the week and have easy meals some evenings.

Don't give in to the pressure to be doing loads constantly if it doesn't work for you guys!

I feel like this every day. I have a 3.5yo and a 20mo. I love them, but I just need some head space.

I don't remember ever being as noisy or demanding as kids are now . Not a criticism as I really like kids and don't want to suppress their natural exuberance. But I know they don't behave like this at school/ nursery as I used to work there. No shoes on and most importantly Indoor Voices - no shouting , screaming or hassling anyone . Toys can have batteries removed . You put away one toy before you start playing with something else. Don't suppose a body pillow separating space in bed might work? Or better still seperate duvet for her.

No classes

Batteries out of toys

.I'm sensitive to noise so I didn't have any electronic noisy toys and the rule for instruments was play outside (large garden so no bother to neighbors). I explained that mum doesn't like a lot of noise, some adults don't mind a lot of noise but this is just something about me.

I found the book Simplicity Parenting, by Kim John Payne, helpful.

When you have kids It's healthy to model for them what it means to look after yourself.

Thank you everyone!

She is just so very DEMANDING!

At least its not just me!

I will check out the vagus nerve thing too and the loud toys from Xmas will be having batteries removed lol.

Its a rarety to even get a bath alone!!!!!!

I remember when I was childless, my friend moaned about not peeing or bathing alone and I said to her "just shut the door and say no" HAHA MORE FOOL ME... who cant bathe alone now LOL!!!!!!!