I am overstimulated

[MoonDustInYourHair]

Mum of a 4yr old

I work FT

Husbanf works long hours

Good family support

I am SO OVERSTIMULATED sometimes

My ears throb sometimes and every little noise makes me cringe or wince. If she isnt using an indoor voice or feeling VERY chatty sometimes my actual ears hurt!!

I cant even hear the tv for kids toys sometimes I just give up.

I adore my child I really do ..... but some nights if she sleeps next to me she is literally ONTOP of me. I enjoy sleeping with her sometimes but some nights I really need sleep without a foot up my nose.

I am under so much pressure to get her to classes/the park/ keep myself fit/ shopping/cooking/ eat 5 a day/ get her to eat well... and the rest!

Even as I type a kids toy is blasting and I could CRY

I had my head in my hands last night. I have had my fingers in my ears already today.

My house is nicely lit and calm in that respect.

Ive made us a nice pot of soup today and done some cleaning.

Does anyonelse feel like this sometimes? Any tips?

I adore her more than I could ever put in words but WOW its alot sometimes!!! There are days I could listen to her chat all day and i love to lie with her in bed and just take her in!!

The tears are coming now!!

Hormones may play a part. I am late 30s and my PMS is worsening! Seems to be worse around ovulation!!

Was about to suggest loops but I can see you are on it! I have a noisy job and a noisy family and I want to rip my own head off at times!

Hug to everyone!

And THANK YOU!!

... she just walked in with a guitar LOL x

It was far easier when I had 4 DC rather than the eldest or youngest on their own.

They used to talk at and exhaust their siblings instead I just did a shed load of laundry/cooking/assisting with crafts.

My youngest is a looooot and it's actually a lot easier when my older DC is around because at least then they direct it at each other. DC2 busted in on my shower this morning and then spent the whole thing complaining it was weird to see me naked but still refusing to go away.

I often had play dates/did a spot of free childcare for friends to keep the youngest occupied 😬

Youngest and eldest have ADHD makes complete sense now 🤣

@RandomMess I suppose as its just US its 1-1 which is alot.

X

It is very intense for you.

I wear parenting ear plugs sometimes. They are made by a company called Loop. They are clear and practically invisible once in. You can hear enough to look after your child safely and interact with them but it definitely takes the edge off the general noise!

I'm embarrassed at how many other people have recommended Loop. Shoulda RTFT 🙈

Indeed have loop and think they're rubbish tbh

Yes I tried them too. I don't get it at all. They don't work 🤷🏻‍♀️

I might try the earplugs- worth a go I think.

Nothing ventured nothing gained! X

I feel like this too. Some of my friends who don't work have some time to themselves (1-2 mornings a week when child is in nursery) and I think about this all the time and how amazing that must be as I am either working 4 days a week or with my child. She comes with me on the commute as well as I drop her in to nursery. I genuinely think you need some time to yourself, even in small moments throughout the day. DH needs to help you carve out those moments - when DC is in bed could you go for a walk with some music, or go to the gym? Both me and DH find these small moments throughout the day or on an evening - I think we'd go spare otherwise

If you have good family support, could one of them take her out for a couple of hours every weekend and you can just stay at home and enjoy the quiet? It might be that you have a bath or a nap or read or it might be that you clean and tidy but, whatever the activity, it doesn't matter as it is quiet and no one can go "mum.....". Just knowing you have that in the diary might help you get through the more intense times.
And, yes, review the toys and get rid of the most annoying!