Can we have a 'My children are driving me insane' support group please?

[JoshandJamie]

I was about to post about yet another behaviour issue with my sons and then I thought - no. While I know everyone will have some great advice, it's not advice I need. It's commiserations.

We start each day with a cup of milk and each day they have the exact same argument about who's having which cup. And thus commences the day - interspersed with pooing in pants, peeing in pants, constant bickering, not listening, wasting food,tantrums, pushing boundaries - until they go to bed and I am frazzled.

So if anyone else out there needs a place to vent / have a virtual hug or glass of wine / feel like you're not alone in being a mother on the edge, then sign up here.

lol x 100 at why don't dogs have wings
The pretending not to hear business drives me just potty. Think its a control thing for ds ("I can choose when to talk to you mummy")

And bibi my ds is just the same about breakfast, his evil twin before eating but as soon as he'd had something even just half a slice of toast he's fine. DH is the same though, must be blood sugar. Men! Kids! Any difference there?

You know who is partly to blame for a lot of this TCD (tension, crisis and drama)?
It's Ikea. Ikea and their multi coloured packs of childrens plates and bowls.

WTF do they not just do x6 yellow farking bowls and be done with it.

The number of 'it's completely the end of my whole world' rages we have in this house over the shitting pink Ikea plate.

You are to blame for all this you know.

It can be any bowl or plate or cup or spoon though...Let's have communist parenting where every item in daily use is identical!

Today I have an 11 year old DS who still can't wee in the toilet bowl and a 3 year old DD with conjunctivitis, who therefore cannot go to nursery, and is practising for the screaming olympics each time I have to put the drops in her eye.

BUT the 8 year old was practically perfect this morning! Yeah!

Oh, I'm glad somebody brought up indecisiveness!

It used to make me feel so guilty that I can deal with a fairly good range of really naughty behaviour, I am pretty effective with temper tantrums, and not too phased by defiance- yet all that wretched dithering and humming and ha'ing and inability to make up what passes for their minds turns me into a tantrumming toddler!!! .

can I join you please

dd1 is just 3

she is stubborn personified
she makes me want to scream sometimes

its feeling tricky today as gecko has a cough that is making her cough so much she is sick

everything seems a little harder when one is clinging to you and not well

and my 8 yr old NEVER stops talking

That stones thing, I am sure DD was reading this thread as today, in our brand new done up gravelled garden she picked up a few stones and put them in her pocket, carried them around all day, taking them out every so often to admire them, and then completely lost it when I told her she couldn't take them in the bath.

She then insisted she was sleeping on the floor in 'just nappy' ie no pillow, duvet, blanket or pj's
Cue one screaming session she is now in her bed...I hope!

Glad i found this thread as i am struggling at the moment with my dd's(aged 6 and 2)
They really are driving me crackers and believe me i was well on the way pre dc.
From the minute they wake in the morning i find myself praying for bedtime or work ,where i can escape from them.The 6 year old is moody,disobediant,full of teenage like attitude,never satisified.The 2 year old has been bloody hard work from the day she was born.I can only describe her as a truly difficult child,incredibley stubborn and with a vile temper,everything is an issue for her.
God i never imagined i would speak of my dc in this waybut i truly despair.I blame me and dp obviously because we must have made them this way.
We are due to go on holiday in July,which i booked with trepidation as last time was a nightmare.We cant even eat out in a pub as dd2 is so naughty and people just stare at us and because she is tall they think that she is 3 or 4 and then her behaviour looks even worse.
Dreading another round of it tommorrow.

dd1 was a lovely child until she started school
I struggle to see any good in them at the moment and all me and dp do is shout and tell them off all the time(well it feels like it)

the same here.
i am here at this time of the night can you believe that?
i was in shower yesterday, somebody knocked on door, i opened and surprise: 2 police at my door.
while i was in shower my 7 yr old dd rang 999, saying i dont know what.
i am at my end with her. i have no energy left, i have tried everything, nothing works.
anyway it was good, i have told how hard time i have with her, and feel like i am going to give up on her.
she is so strong character, bossy, embarrassing me everywhere by screaming shouting on the streets, telling lies.
how can i suffer that anymore? what will happen when she will be teenager?

oh god stones.....

I have no words for today's stone dramas

pelvicfloornomore and lucylue - you both sound in need of some time out and an extra large dose of commiserations. This is not a thread for advice (particularly as I have none that would be a bit useful) but hang in there. There are days I'd willingly give mine away to the bin men. And then others they're so sweet I could gobble them up. There is no rhyme or reason for either mood. SO DON'T BLAME YOURSELVES.

It's great to read through these poast as it makes me think that my kids are normal instead of evil spawn.

My DS went into meltdown when Daddy left for work as he hadn't heard him say goodbye. I told DH all about this so he made a huge event of saying goodbye the next day, but the same thing happened after he closed the door.
This morning, DD had a fit because I wanted her to wear sandals to nursery. And that was before 9am.

hi Pelvicfloornomore,
i agree with what last you said. i think they are not learning nice stuff from their friends. how much i try to teach her what is right what is wrong and she must not copy bad behaviour, she doesnt get it.
and it seems to me that she doesnt see how upset i get.
she has pity for other stuff, but for me:none.
i cant have a time off, have nobody to help for that.
i dont see the end of this nice.
everyday is like a nightmare.
sorry for ranting here.

Hi nice to see that my dc arent the only spawn of the devil
Feeling slightly better today(only slightly mind)
dd2 kicked off before i had even got her out of her cotbed this morning.She wanted to wear the other dress with the animals on"But this one has other animals on dd2 "

Oh well off to work in a while for a rest,lol.

Oh this thread is great - can I join?

I have twins 2.9. One is obsessed with stones as well - so glad it's not just my child. There is a local stately home I take them to just because there are huge hidden walkways covered with little stones and they can sit happily for ages playing with them .

Failing miserably to potty train because my children are just not interested. All my friends have potty trained children who are months younger, if not years.

We also have random tantrums, tears and howling about many things, including me accidentally shutting the stair gate at the bottom of the stairs before they can shut it. Sigh. Toddlers are utterly insane.

Tatterdemalion we have 2 sets of the Ikea plates, bowls and cups. I know it's giving in but for that price it felt like it would save that headache. Yet, they still manage to fight over the same yellow plate - even though there is another yellow one which is in everyway identical!

I have only got five posts into this thread - and I already feel totally at home .

I have never understood the evolutionary value of driving your parents insane.

DD tantrumming today because she doesn't need to wear eye glasses....

oh jesus fecking christ re the twig, this is my life. sodding twigs, stones and leaves

i have always been a bit of an anti-plastic snob tbh. GOD that has backfired, at least you can get another beeping flashing piece of tat if you lose it, twigs are, it seems, one offs

ds's big thing right now is being exceptionally naughty and then giggling. it drives me insane.

oh and IKEA

fecking hell

here is what they did to US

around the time ds was weaned they sold us a 6 pack of flower shaped plates, in all different colours. of these, only one was pink. but all were cute.

then, shortly before dd1 was born, they discontinued the range.

I LOVE this and have nearly wet myself in just-potty-trained-style laughing at all the ridiculous yet horribly familiar stories!!!

WHY does it matter whether the cup is pink or blue?? WHY do I pander to it?

WHY does every walk turn into a nature trail? And WHY do my DDs act like I've torn their arms off when I tell them I don't want a shoe-box full of wood-lice in my kitchen??

And when do children start to tidy up after themselves?

And why does my 4yo refuse to wipe her own bottom when she's quite capable but my 2yo insists on doing it when she clearly isn't....

AARRRGGGGHHHH at least I'm not alone......