Snack plates for dinner

[Goodnightelizabethgoodnight]

I'm sure it's just an older generation mindset of needing 3 hot square meals a day, but my gran was shocked ( 🙄 ) that my 3 year old had a snack plate for his dinner.

Plenty of nights we do have a hot meal together but I'd say at least once, sometimes twice a week, he happily sits and eats a little snack plate in front of the telly. He's been at nursery 9-3, outdoors for much of the time, he's tired, and he just wants to chill. I know the feeling myself! So after two helpings of curry with rice for his lunch at nursery I don't think it's a problem to have a snack plate for dinner.

He's having the same snack plate today as he did yesterday which has breadsticks, oatcakes, humous, salami, smoked cheese, raspberries, strawberries, chopped cucumber and peppers. He might have a small bowl of soup after too. Tbh I think he's living the best life with his little platter in front of the telly and I think it's great 😁

Breakfast was porridge, lunch was curry and rice, tomorrow for dinner we're having chicken risotto, and the next night we're having spaghetti bolognese.

Anyone else do the same with their kids?

Bit rude.

DS is 2 so absolutely clueless. 😂

I’m missing the point but I’ve very jealous of your campervan dinner, that sounds like bliss!

You’ve not, you’ve been repeatedly offering an opinion people did not ask for and clearly do not want. That isn’t manners. You wouldn’t do it in conversation (at the table 😉) unless you wanted people to consider you boorish.

@MsAnnFrope

I’m missing the point but I’ve very jealous of your campervan dinner, that sounds like bliss!

It's great fun! Even in winter it's nice to go off for a night in the hills in the snow.

I don't think I've been remotely rude..some people have been rude to me though. Obviously people either don't read posts properly or don't like alternative views. I think my boys have had a wholesome childhood that I think is great. It doesn't matter what other people think and it shouldn't matter to them what I, a stranger on mumsnet, think about them. But clearly a lot of people do for some reason and get agitated. Not much I can do.

Thanks for your quip about the table. I do appreciate your effort.

One other point which would be remiss of me not to point out. I haven't been "repeatedly offering an opinion people did not ask for". I've been replying politely to the many posts that have my name on. People just don't like what I believe in re no screens at table. Which I find amazing.

I think you can feel free to be remiss. Not that you need my permission.

Well you did insert yourself into a conversation I was having with someone else. Like a screen-obsessed whirlwind out of the blue! I felt I'd better reply.

Ironically I don’t allow my child screens at the table and we eat in the dining room. Also it’s a thread not a conversation, do you not understand how forums work?

You still persistently and obtusely miss the point. No one is saying their children/any children should have screens with every meal. We are saying there is a time and a place where a screen is appropriate for the circumstances and you shouldn't be judging, which you have said you do multiple times and then denied it.

Yes I do. Thank you so much for your assistance though. And the interesting point about your arrangements.

@Autther

Some people are just disgustingly rude and clearly no amount of eating straight-backed at the dining table every night will change that trait.

I don't judge anyone.

You say that there are times where a screen is appropriate at mealtimes. I complteley disagree in pretty much all circumstances and I am allowed my own views on this. Or am I talking to Keir Starmer and I need reprogramming to toe the screen time line?

I don't repeatedly miss the point. I just dont agree with you. And I simply reply politely to people who name me, stating the fact that I disagree with them. Would you prefer I pretend that I agree with everyone?

I have clearly hit a nerve. And I suspect I know why. But don't shoot the messenger.

You are ridiculous.

On this page alone I see I have been called(in a pile-on) the following, simply for an expressing an alternative view which is actually perfectly normal!

Stuck up troll
Boorish
Persistently obtuse
Judgemental
Smug
Disgustingly rude

You guys are adorable! I remember when my kids were little it was a really lovely wholesome time, not a time to even think to be mean girls to one poor dissenting person on the Internet.

Not nice to experience this sort of abuse just for giving a personal view.

To be fair, you have admitted to judging and smugness so if anything, pp's are accurate with at least those two things.

You didn't just simply express an alternative view, you used emotive language such as 'I wouldn't do that to my kids' like very occasionally watching TV whilst eating is just the worst thing ever which is always going to get a strong reaction. Though, you probably knew that.

Don't worry. I won't report this thread to mumsnet for bullying. Which it was.

But I anticipate that I will have PTSD symptoms every time I hear that terrible phrase "snack plate" henceforth.

I imagine that children who never get a rare opportunity to relax in front of a movie with a pizza relish when they're older and can go to friends' houses or girl/boyfriends' houses and relax with their families for dinner and a movie, or pizza and video games.

I remember pizza nights with my family as a kid/teenager, watching Father Ted, Black Books, and all the American sitcoms on channel 4. We'd all be sharing pizza and popcorn or a Chinese takeaway and absolutely wetting ourselves laughing. Really fond memories of this.

I'm not worried at all, I haven't bullied anyone.

No you haven't don't worry. In my lived experience of being bullied on here your posts weren't ones I felt victimised and upset by. I don't group you in with the Mean Girls.

It depends on the thread. On a different thread, I apparently attacked someone and 'bothered' them because I responded to their comments.

Fun times.

Your kid is three!!! There's absolutely no way he should be watching fecking Father Ted for goodness sake!!

Right...I'm off! Before I get another earful from Regina George!!

OP was talking about herself watching Father Ted when she was younger, not her son. I'm assuming she also wasn't 3 because she remembers it.