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I need opinions - am I a terrible mother for this???

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eynjln · 29/01/2025 17:58

I was careless today and I can’t stop thinking about it and can’t find anything similar online

DD turns two in a couple of months. We live about a two minute walk away from the local shop, and DD loves walking. She hadn’t had much fresh air due to being at childcare, so we walked there together hand in hand to buy dinner. There’s only one road to cross, and it’s a side street so very quiet very rarely any cars or people.

she has a habit of throwing a tantrum when she realises we’re returning home. Today we were about 10metres from our house and she threw herself on the floor and I couldn’t get her up (the classic straightening/bending her body to make it difficult).

I thought to myself, once she realises she has dirty hands she will freak out (she hates dirt) and it will teach her why she has to always hold my hand and walk. So I stood and waited right beside her, and she was on her hands and knees. Within about 5-10 seconds of that a man walked passed and made a comment about how I’m letting my daughter crawl on the concrete (she had moved about 3cm in that 5-10 second time)

and I responded “oh it’s nothing hand washing can’t fix” thinking he was just being annoying. And then after I picked her up and carried her home, I started thinking about how there could’ve been glass on the floor, or a whole manner of things, and she could’ve hurt herself or gotten sick

and now I can’t stop thinking about it and I feel so guilty and stupid that I didn’t even think about what she could’ve put her hands in

has anything like this happened to you? I feel so so bad can’t find anything like this online

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eynjln · 29/01/2025 19:11

Echobelly · 29/01/2025 18:22

That man was being an idiot, Jesus, crawling on some concrete isn't going to do any harm.

I used to get very het up about comments from random people and feeling upset they might think I was a bad person or something, until i realised I'd probably never see them again, we wouldn't recognise each other if we did and they probably forgot about the whole encounter 2 minutes later.

I need to start thinking like this too. I suppose people are always going to make comments I just need to get better at dealing with them

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