Baby dads

[Little562]

So me and my baby dad have never been together we sleeted with each other once and I fell pregnant, I know it probably wasn’t a wise choice but I wanted a kid so bad and now he’s demanding to have more then two days a week, where as I feel like two days a week is perfect baring in mind our son is 6 months old and I’m just seeing that the father is getting more and more demanding and always trying to change my sons routine for his benefits and I don’t feel like that’s right or fair l, I just wanna know what you guys think of this and what I should do really??

Not use the expression baby dad

There is so much wrong with this. Baby dad 🤢

Get a court access arrangement and enforce it. Does he pay maintenance towards baby's costs?

I'm not a guy but I tho k if he is the father then he has rights too

This baby has two parents, even if you only sleeted together once.

i don’t want his money so I get him to bulk buy nappy’s milk and wet wipes and I’m not saying he doesn’t have rights I’m just saying two days a week is a okay agreement

Well if he wants access to his child he should go to court to get 50/50 access.

You shouldn't have had a baby with someone you didn't know and expect everything to go your own way

You had a baby with this person, on purpose, the baby doesn’t belong to you, he has two equal parents and you’re best off accepting that and coparenting as amicably as you can because you’ve got many years of this ahead.

If you wanted to call all the shots you should have used a sperm donor. But that would have taken more planning than shagging a random and hoping for the best. You are where you are, accept it.

You should have thought about this when you decided to keep the baby. You are lucky that he is stepping up as well.

He’s the ‘baby’s father’ not ‘baby dad’ and has the same parental rights as you do unless a court order is in place.

As your baby is only 6 months I can see why you want to be with him as much as possible but you need to come to some kind of compromise with the child’s father, if not he will likely eventually take you to court and could get 50/50 contact when your child is bit older.

Is he seeing the child on his own or does he see them when you are there? Are you breast feeding?

It’s your ‘baby’s dad’, not ‘baby dad’. Unless you’re talking about your own dad dressed up in a nappy and babygro.

How is getting him to buy these things not wanting his money?

I think two days per week is the norm. Does he work? Sorry for all the posters who are being pedantic 🙄

The phrase 'Baby dad' is utterly repulsive.

'Sleeted' also sounds horrid.

Anyway, you have a child that has a mother and a father and you should count yourself lucky that he wants to be involved in caring for and raising his child.

His child.

Not just yours. His too.

You can be as obstructive as you like but you made the decision to have a baby with this man and with that comes the fact he can take you to court for 50/50 if he wants. Whether he’ll be granted it is another thing, but that’s by the by right now.

It's OK for you, but presumably not for your baby's father? I get that your baby is still tiny, and you don't want him out of your sight any more than is strictly necessary, but you need to come to terms with the fact that your baby has another parent who wants a relationship with your joint child.

He's the baby's father. He has the same rights as you so should have 50/50 - at such a young age I wouldn't necessarily expect overnights etc. More day time contact.
Either compromise or he will take you to court and get 50/50 unless there is a significant reason you havent states why he shouldnt have 50/50

Your son sounds like he has a father who wants to be an active parent - this is a great thing for your son.

This is your life now for the next 17.5 years so you need to find a way to make it work in your son's best interests.

Go to CMA and court and get a formalised agreement on maintenance and access and then stick to it. Prepare yourself for the possibility your baby's father will be granted 50:50 custody in a year or so.

Parents don't have rights, they have legal responsibilities. It's your child who has the rights, one of which is the right to contact with both parents.
The father can and should get court ordered access so he can equally parent the child. He owes the child maintenance.

I assumed 'sleeted' was just a typo -- is it slang I'm unaware of???

Guys this isn’t about him not having parental rights this is about 2 days being good enough while my son is 6 months old and yes I am breastfeeding some of these answers actually help but others just feel like a dig, thought this pages was to help parents and yes baby dad just like I’m his baby mum we don’t find that term in a bad way

Don't mind the unhelpful comments, I think 2 days is more than enough for a 6 month old. Most dads have their kids over the weekend which is two days. Maybe explain to him that once he's older you will be happy for him to see him more. 2 days while you are breastfeeding is enough. You should talk to your HV too for support.

Is he on the birth certificate, if not will he bother to go to court/get a DNA test? Because if the answer to either of those is yes then it will likely end up 50:50 at some point.

Court will want little and often an hour or two every day or every other day upto 6months. 6 months is normal nursery age and they don't have to rely on Breastmilk so they would want you to build up to a few nursery length days.

I wrote on my contact agreement that overnights wouldn't start until DD was 4 years old.

How do you think going to court is going to help the OP refuse additional contact? The opposite is likely to be the case.