Unsupervised in pool

[MyCoralFish]

DH took the kids swimming this afternoon to give me a much needed break. He’s just told me that he needed a wee while there, so left them on their own, in the pool.

When he returned he couldn’t find them. They were on the slide (separate to the pool but right next to it).

Kids are DS 8 who can swim well, and DD 5 who swims like a fish with a vest on (Konfidence vest) and sinks without it.

The pool is very small, the toilets are 5 meters from the pool. There is no active lifeguard (not UK) but occasionally someone watching from a room above the pool.

I‘m sat here in stunned silence. I would ALWAYS take them both to the toilet with me rather than leave them alone. I told him that if anything had happened to DD, DS would have to live with that for the rest of his life.

However , I often think I am over protective and am not sure if this is actually fine.

So what do you think?

I haven’t posted this in aibu because I‘ve had a shocker of a day (unrelated) and am feeling too fragile for the replies there!

i used to be a lifeguard. It takes seconds for kids to get into difficulties. No way should they be left in water at that age for any time period.

That's terrifying. Kids can drown so very quickly.

I go to the pool at my gym and they have never questioned me!

I keep them in the baby pool (very shallow), 4 ur old next to me with a swim fin on, watch them.all like a hawk and don't relax for a second! I take turns playing games with them all and giving them all a little but of attention and we stay about 2 hours.

My partner comes most of the tine tbh, I don't go alone often because it is hard work, we want them all to be co fident swimmers asap though as we often go to the lakes and it's a life skill, isn't it?! :)

i work in swimming pools. This is standard in all UK pools, that no one under 8 can go in without an adult.

based on this, absolutely unreasonable to leave the 5 yo.

Water is one of the highest cause of death for children. My adult cousin who was a swimming state champion died on a pool.... He was sucked by a vent! Google how many children this happens to and show it to your husband.

You could have lost both of them if the other decided to help instead of getting their father.

So in my book you are not overreacting.

He shouldn't have left the 5 year old and I dare say won't make the same decision again in future.

The 8 year old, if a competent swimmer could swim unsupervised in the UK.

and sinks without it.

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This. This is what I think

I'd be furious and shocked tbh

Also surely most people do not peein the pool??

Fucking idiot.