Just a moan….anyone else frazzled!

[Shleepymummy]

I am drowning!! Two pre- school children, working, just can’t seem to get on top of housework even though I feel it’s all I do, Xmas presents to wrap (no energy to do it), social commitments, no time with husband, no sex life with husband, he’s sick, then I’m sick, then kids are sick, jobs lists that never get finished, meal ideas, food shopping, feeding the kids, clean up after feeding, fence panel down, fix fence panel, car insurance up for renewal, gas and electric tariff needs changing, credit card needs balance transfer, kids nursery have put fees up, nursery tell us the decent staff are leaving, worried about kids at said shitty nursery, drowning at work, boss being an arse, I look like shit, feel like shit, drinking too much booze but need something in the evening to take the edge off, parents need support, husband poorly and waiting on tests, car is a shit tip, haven’t done Xmas cards bar a few, feel bad about lack of Xmas cards, daughter had a play date months ago, wanted to reciprocate but just didn’t get round to it, now feel guilty about this having seen the mum at nursery pick up.
By some miracle though- laundry is all done and up to date. So there we go!
Just had to get all that out!! Any one else feel like this? Or I’m just a grinch?! I am an organised, productive person (believe it or not!!!)

Feel this 💯

Yesss 🙌

Yes, 100% all of this. I try and focus on the glimmers of hope and lower my housework standards as much as possible!

I need to be better at this. I just hate living in mess- my mental health likes a clean tidy home

Another one feeling the same OP except I only have one child. You're doing great hang in there

Yeah it never ends

Yes, yes, OH GOD YES!

Thanks gang, what an absolute shit show
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yes!!!! Holy shit it’s hard

So much to constantly do all the time. Was it always like this for people? When did life just get so busy? My house is a complete state and so am I.

My mum says life seems harder now- she was a working mum in the 90s and said life wasn’t as full on and depressing as it is now. Thanks Mum 🤣👌

3yo (too young for nursery) and 7 week old here. EVERYTHING you said!!!

Somehow laundry is done (only half put away tho), and Santa is complete... AND WRAPPED. I will not be taking questions on any other housely duties.

God amen, and you've reminded me of something I'd forgotten so... yay

I genuinely thought I wrote this... YES... feel this on a spiritual level!! 😆 Hang in there. Xx

Could have written this, fucking relentless!!

Totally get you. Life is fucking hard work most of the time. Especially at this time of year.

Ah, hello my tribe!

House is a state. Only bought half of presents. Various balls dropped this year. I comfort myself that the kids are totally oblivious.

Life is relentless at times...
Always on the go. Kids to sort, paperwork, work, cleaning... round and round we go!
Gotta take the little positivities when we can... !!!

I’m so glad so many of us are in the same boat. Sorry!! It’s a shit boat, but it ain’t a lonely one I guess.
Anyone got any tips on how to make things a bit easier? Anyone else not want to throttle their other half?! 🤣

Yes! It's an endless circle of "I want a tidy house to help me feel calm" and "I have no energy to tidy it". We have so much STUFF. Also when I do tidy up its back to chaos later that same day. Sometimes we just heat up leftovers for dinner and, somehow, the kitchen still ends up in a mess. All day long its guilt, guilt, guilt, I'm not doing enough, I need a break, but when I do get a break I feel bad about it and that I should be doing more. I know logically its essential to have a break but my mind won't let me. Wahhhh.

Same! Absolutely relentless!!

I feel exactly the same! I’m on mat leave at the minute and both looking forward to and dreading going back to work. How the hell am I meant to fit it all in plus work when I’m drowning already?!

I’m being ruthless with stuff. So much has gone on Vinted or to the charity shop or just in the bin. We have so much that we didn’t even remember half of it. My DH has finally got to the same point as me with the mess after years of being unbothered by it. Neither of us are naturally tidy people but I’m desperately trying to keep on top of it in spite of my whirlwind 4yo DD and 8mo DS.

Feeling the same. I have only one DD, older teen but she has additional needs so the list of tasks around it is endless , she was unwell with various things twice then DH and I got the latest virus, on the second week now, feel dreadful. I just want to hide somewhere and cry but can’t as house is a tip and there is no space to hide a mouse. Hoping to do something today and tomorrow. We did all cards which is very unusual for us, I accidentally had stamps from the last year so DD sat and did all of them.

Wise woman , your mum @Shleepymummy mine is not so understanding she is in the camp : we had it so much tougher, you are snowflakes.

Seems like all the ‘stuff’ really doesn’t help! I too try and keep on top of clutter, I clear stuff out regularly and yet I still feel overwhelmed. Young kids just seems to come with a lot of crap. Xmas decorations don’t help- I used to love it all and always wanted lots of decs up and now I almost don’t want anything! I think my mind feels so full I almost want my living space to be ridiculously empty so I can breathe? Does that make sense?! Tonight I didn’t have a drink- decided to just have water and go to bed. Still awake but hey ho!
@pizzaHeart I take my hat off too you, my friend has a child with additional needs and I admire her so much for what she has to manage- makes me look ridiculous for moaning.
@bathbooknap ahh the guilt too- I didn’t state that in my first post, add it to the pile! My DH comes home and is all fun, playing, snacks handed out left right and centre like some sort of toddler drug dealer. I’m trying to pick up food from multiple rooms, calm everyone down before bed- then I yell (cos I’m just a pent up ball of stress) and then I’m the bad guy. Boring, strict, no fun Mummy.
Fabulous!