Hey 👋 so as the title says my 14yo DD has told me she is trans, she came out as lesbian a couple months ago, which went great we had a really good conversation about it and she has come to me a few times about issues with her girlfriend.
the trans thing isn’t an issue if i genuinely believed she was trans but i don’t, and i am angry because she really believes she is, i know i sound like i am in denial but bit of background,
she is autistic, and very easily influenced by things- this is why we have not allowed her on social media yet, she watches things on YouTube and believes whatever is the gods honest truth and we have to actually prove to her that its wrong.
3 of her friends in the last year have come out as trans- it seems to me to be a trend within her group of friends at the moment.
she doesn’t believe me when i say that it is totally normal for young teenagers to feel unhappy with their bodies, we all go through it and its just a case of getting used to your body and learning to love it again after a big change- it does not mean she wants to be a boy- she says she doesn’t like her body and so to me has jumped to conclusions.
She is wildly over dramatic and blows things waaayyy out of proportion alot- hence why i think she has taken “i don’t like my body” to “i must want to be a boy”.
she is the most feminine person i know, it was only a week ago she begged me to crochet her a cute little headband for her, she spends minimum of 30 minutes a day doing her hair and make up, planning her outfits etc
we have had a disagreement about it this afternoon where she has gotten upset and said i am being unfair and just accept it but i don’t think i can because i don’t think it is true, any ideas how i can help her sort through her thoughts on this? Am i in denial? I honestly don’t know what to do with this, Thanks.