What's the best piece of parenting advice you've ever ignored and why?

[LunaDream0]

Question from a new mother.

Sleep training isn’t just cry it out though. There’s many methods.

Sure - if you go to Google Scholar you can use keywords such as ‘cry it out,’ ‘sleep training,’ ‘attachment,’ ‘infant development,’ and ‘emotional regulation’ and you will find studies there. Also some NHS trusts publish leaflets on how to support sleep and often they cite articles e.g those suggesting that babies feel distressed when parents and carers do not respond to their cries. Have a Google. 👍🏽

Most things 😂😂

Turned out my ds didn't read the parenting books before his arrival and didn't live his life by other peoples ideals

He's turned out just fine!

In fact at 20 years old and physically disabled he's just left in his adapted car to collect a 14 and 16 yo local to us for all 3 to go swim training (for the second time today) and will drive them all home again later. They train 5 days (9 times) a week.

I think you just go with raising the child you have alongside living the life you want.

You don't want to regret living it your way in years to come because you can't turn back time.

For the record both my kids are happy, independent children. Confident and intelligent and excelling in their milestones. Get ample attention from me and hubby but no attachment issues or feelings of abandonment at bed time either. If they are being a bit fussy with sleeping we adjust as needed but the self settling approach is usually first go to and usually works.

Ignored lots of advice

Didn’t breastfeed at all
Never co-slept
Didn’t do contact naps
Sleep training at six months old
Weaned on jars and pouches

Ended up with happy and healthy babies and happy parents!