Hi my son’s dad has a new partner. They met March, he moved her in less than a month. It was an extremely difficult year, the way we’ve been getting on (me and my son’s dad have a 5 year old) is by keeping my mouth shut :(
hes 26, im 24 & his partner is 20 (19 when they first met and a lot of drama when she was this age)
she isn’t mature and has no respect for me. In arguments she’s mentioned my weight, mental health, everything. Never apologised but I’ve of course moved on as I put my son first
atm I think what’s spiralled it, is because I’ve said nothing, she has no respect for me and calls all the shots. And my ex allows it because he’s scared of being single.
the problem I’ve got now, is I’ve got a no social media agreement with our sons dad, no pictures to be posted of him. She went against this and thought ‘I wouldn’t mind’ cos it was the back of him. She took it down as we were getting on then. We had an argument earlier on this week, as I told my sons dad it was children in need the next day (my son was at his dads) and he went ‘can you not buy something’ and I went ‘with what money’ (gives no child maintenance and cm don’t take it out is his benefits even tho claim is there)
and he went not my fault you’ve got no money. I then said ‘what we gonna do’ and he said ‘I don’t know what YOUR gonna do’ and we then argued because I said that Wasn’t fair to say, he’s ours, our responsibility, and I’ve told you about this so why is the stress on me. The solution wasn’t the problem. I was always gonna pull through for my son, it was the ‘he lives with you, your responsibility’. his gf then messaged with a solution, I was taking my son to swimming, replying bk to my sons dad, but was gonna reply to her in 20 mins. My sons dad said she said I wasn’t allowed in the house (I never said anything to her or disrespectful or anything to him) (she just wanted to say that as she’s got the power now her name is on all the bills etc). She then again called me nasty names (never said any back apart from she’s immature and she didn’t need to get involved). She said I was cheeky and rude for saying ‘what money’ and that I was so rude for not replying.
sorry that story was important as since then, I’ve messaged him asking her to remove her recent TikTok. And she’s in front of a picture wall at theirs with my son’s photos all in the background. If it was blurry etc I wouldn’t have minded but you can see my son, none of them have replied or taken it down. I don’t know what to do but it’s so ironic and cheeky to say I was being rude and disrespectful even though I was replying and not being rude. But they’re doing that now? I messaged yesterday evening but he’s at a funeral for an extended family member today, so obviously going to leave it probably but what do I do, if she doesn’t remove it? How do I establish boundaries and try to gain a little respect? If they can’t respect removing a TikTok, what other things do the not respect 😭