Would you ask for your child to be invited to a party they haven't been invited to?

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Quick back story - we're new to the school, 3 weeks. My child has been talking about a party that is taking place this weekend and saying he's excited about it... I don't know anything about it. I've seen one message on a WhatsApp group with a mum asking for help taking their kids to this party, but nothing else.

Would you ask the mum separately (in a really polite way!) or just sit this one out? They are year 1

I’d probably introduce myself and child to the mum in the playground, and hope she takes the hint!

Absolutely don’t fish for an invitation!

Absolutely not

I would t ask no. Even if you do it in the nicest, most respectful way possible it will be talked about out of your ear shot.

what you do is explain to your six year old that he’s new to the school and the invite would have gone out before he started. Then take him out somewhere cool on that day and make a fuss of him.

God no!
However it IS possible that an invite got lost, maybe try and say hello and introduce yourself to The Mum if possible but you really can't ask directly

Oh how awkward. If I was having an all class party (or all the girls/boys) then I would be more than happy to add a new addition to the class but the party parent may not be aware and you can't really ask in case numbers have been finalised or it's not an everyone welcome sort of thing.

Try make friends with a few of the parents and post the odd comment on the WhatsApp group so people know who you are, and hopefully they'll be invited to the next one.

No. Their child won’t know your child, because you’re new.

Absolutely not. Numbers are probably finalised by now anyway. Just explain to your son why he’s not invited and he can’t expect to be invited to every party

I would reach out. Your kid obviously thinks they’ve been invited. It would be fine to say you’d like to double check if he’s on the list or not. It doesn’t have to be awkward.

No!

No, don't ask directly

She may not realise there is a new child. If the other mum asked for help asking for someone to take her child, it may well have been all class invite. I suppose you could introduce yourself on the group and say your child joined three weeks ago. She might reach out to you then?

So would I, like you said you can do it politely.

My ds moved schools in year 2. A couple a weeks after he joined there was a class party we were unaware of. After the party the mum became aware of my dss existence and came over to apologise that he hadn't been invited and invited him on a play date. If I had of been aware in advance of the party, I would not have asked for an invite.

No don't. There will be lots of other parties. Being new to the school, you couldn't have a better time to explain that nobody gets invited to every party, anyway. You might be able to save some stress in the future that way too.

You say there’s a WhatsApp group - have you introduced yourself? Hi I’m Emma, my son Bob joined X class two weeks ago, hope to see more of everyone soon or whatever? I wouldn’t do more than that. Take him out somewhere nice. Plan a playdate for another day.

Haha thank you everyone!! I will not ask!! I suppose I would want the new parent to reach out to me as I would hate for a child to be left out, but don't want to come across the new crazy over familiar mum 🤣🤣 will sit this one out!!

I was going to suggest this too. This exact interaction happened in our class WhatsApp group recently. A parent posted to say they were new and they were promptly invited to a whole-class party. Numbers may not be an issue if it's something like a park party.

He’s only been at the school for 3 weeks. I wouldn’t expect him to be invited and wouldn’t ask either

Don't directly ask, do make sure you do a nice intro on the class WhatsApp if you haven't already.

Yes, this. If it’s a whole class party and I was the parent organising it, I’d def want to know - generally other parents have no idea if a new child has joined the class unless their kid happens to mention it.

If it’s not a whole class party, then no harm done, good to introduce yourself and your child anyway.

I would ask them. Introduce yourself if you haven’t already, explain that your DC has mentioned their DCs party.

I would want the parent to reach out to me if this was the case. If it’s a class party (sounds like it if people are mentioning it in the WhatsApp group) I’m sure they will be more than happy for your DC to come. If they have already confirmed numbers/ limited numbers then it’s fine, just tell your DC the invites went out before they joined the school.

If it's a party for just a few select friends then no I wouldn't expect an invite but if it's a whole class party I would absolutely think most parents would want to include a new child and help them settle in and feel welcomed.

Exactley. It's not that hard.

Don't understand why people feel so awkward by asking simple questions.

Have you introduced yourself on the WhatsApp group ?

Your little boy obviously thinks he's been invited so there's nothing wrong with asking the mum if he is included.