Would you recommend 3 children?

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I am a mum of a three year old and 6 month old baby and I would love another baby. I only ever expected to have two and was so convinced I joked about having a hysterectomy after baby number 2 was born. I keep thinking to myself wait and see how things go, you will probably change your mind as things get harder but so far I still feel that I want another one. Is it just because I can't accept that this is my last baby? I feel guilty about the fact that my existing children would have to share my time and think that I should just enjoy the two lovely children I have got ( I can say that because they are asleep!) However the urge to have another child is biologically really strong - it is a physical yearning.

Did anyone else experience this? Is having 3 or 4 really difficult? Will this feeling go away or will it be something I just have to live with.

I love having 3 DC.

Would have had 4 but like AussieSim was 39 when DS2 (no3) born so getting on a bit I felt.

My gaps are 2yrs and 21mo btw. It's great. And like others say, if you have 3 then 2 is easy (and 1 a doddle!)

You have to do what's right for you. I recall with DS2 being really sad when he was a baby that I would never do all those baby things again - but now he's 5 I am a long way from those feelings.

Good luck with the decision.

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Now custy, say what you really mean

any three children?

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mozart

thats possibly going bsck a few years

I think you really have to want a third child, not simply another baby.

Zippi- I think it's lucky dip

Hi WendyWeber (JanH) I wondered where you went. I think you helped me with a poetry workshop at one stage . I was in Germany for nearly 2 years but have been back in Oz for nearly 4 years now - good memory! Actually I looked up my poem on MN a few weeks ago and was a bit disappointed to find it wasn't as fab as I remembered ...

I have three and I am not looking forward to three lots of homework. The washing and cooking isn't really that much extra work but giving them all enough attention, hugs, bedtime stories etc, can be difficult sometimes, not to mention finding family activites that suit all the ages.

yes alltjd that's a good point about activities to suit.

We are in a good place right now (DC aged 8, 6, 5) but a couple of years ago it was tricky when DS2 was 2-3 and not really prepared to sit for half an hour and do craft, but 4yo DD was desperate to create!

But yes, now it's a lot better. We just have to be wary of stuff that's too young for DS1...

(The answer of course is to have triplets )

if you'd asked this last year, i would have said no, but since ds has turned 1yr, things are much better. dd1 sometimes plays with dd2, and both can make ds laugh in such a way that neither dh nor 1 can.

a friend once said that you instinctly know when you are 'done'. i believe this completely. ds is definitely our last and now i find myself missing the breastfeeding...

whatever you decide is the right decision!

I stopped at 3 because they were all 17mths apart and I wanted to get my 'life' back and we couldn't face getting an enormous car, though I wanted 4 kids(still do really). Going to 3 is a jump a lot of ways, but you make the best of the life you have however many kids you have and I love that mine can entertain each other and I get to do my stuff in the house. Beware of the dreaded 'family ticket' being 2+2 though!!

i found 3 very hard work and wouldnt recommend it .
its up to you we all have our limits